Guest post: That something just doesn’t fit

Jun 18th, 2015 11:22 am | By

Now I’ve caught up somewhat after the conference, so I can do what several people requested and make guest posts of some of the comments from the Discomfort with the more social aspects of gender discussion last week.

I’ll start with one by AMM:

There’s something that a lot of trans people report and I’m becoming aware of in myself that doesn’t get mentioned in feminist discussions of gender.

It’s that feeling that at some fundamental level, you just don’t belong with the people you share a birth gender with, and in many cases you don’t feel right in your body. That something just doesn’t fit, no matter how perfectly you may seem to fit. And when you transition, medically and/or socially, you just feel right for once.

I haven’t transitioned yet, so I can’t say for sure how I’ll feel, but I know that I have _never_ felt at home with being a man or having a male body, and I’ve tried every way I can think of for 60 years. It’s like when my father convinced me (for an afternoon) that I could sell stuff door-to-door. I went out and canvased the neighborhood. And I realized: it’s just not me. I am not cut out to be a salesman. It’s the same thing with being male. I have yet to find anything about being a man (as opposed to a generic human being) that I can relate to. I can intellectualize it, but I can’t feel it. Whereas when I read about or hear women’s experiences, it fits.

Julia Serano describes this a lot better than I can in her book (Whipping Girl), and besides, she’s transitioned, so she can compare before and after.

I get the impression that cis people don’t experience the same sort of not-rightness. Maybe there’s something deep inside, independent of all the social constructions, that just works right for cis people and doesn’t for trans people, and, for lack of any better language, we call it gender.

(This is a syndicated post. Read the original at FreeThoughtBlogs.)



Mr Pinckney came from a family of civil rights activists and leaders

Jun 18th, 2015 10:44 am | By

The BBC profiles pastor and state senator Clementa Pinckney.

A church pastor and a state senator, Clementa Pinckney spoke of his politics as an extension of his religious mission, as another way of serving the people around him.

“Our calling is not just within the walls of the congregation,” he said. “We are part of the life and community in which our congregation resides.”

On Wednesday evening, Mr Pinckney was shot dead among those he had pledged to serve – one of nine victims of a gun attack on the Mother Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church in Charleston, South Carolina.

The 41-year-old pastor had begun preaching at the age of 13. He was also a rising star of Democrat[ic] politics in a state long dominated by Republicans.

He was the youngest African-American in South Carolina’s history to be elected to the legislature. He had been a student at the state university, a Lutheran seminary, as well as at Princeton University.

Now all that’s gone, thanks to a young racist whose daddy gave him a gun for Christmas.

We’re right up there with Bangladesh for hateful murderous targeted violence.

Mr Pinckney came from a family of civil rights activists and leaders. Among them were campaigners for the desegregation of school buses and for electoral reforms that would pave the way for the emergence of black politicians.

In 1998, the veteran Washington Post political reporter, David Broder, met Mr Pinckney and described him as a “spirit-lifter”.

“Our people expect the best of us,” the young politician told the reporter. “They send us to take care of the people’s business, and those of us who take hold of that responsibility understand that’s what it’s really about.”

Earlier this year, Mr Pinckney appeared at rallies to protest at the death of Walter Scott, an unarmed black man shot dead by a police officer in Charleston.

So the young racist with the gun executed him, just as the theocrats with machetes executed Avijit Roy and almost executed Asif Mohiuddin.

Mr Pinckney left a wife and two children.

(This is a syndicated post. Read the original at FreeThoughtBlogs.)



TyWanza Sanders

Jun 18th, 2015 10:31 am | By

Murdered in the Charleston AME church shootings.

Shaun King ‏@ShaunKing 24 minutes ago
This is TyWanza Sanders. Killed in the #CharlestonShooting.

A great young brother. Recent Allen University grad.

I’m reminded of the photos of the Garissa victims – so many young vibrant hopeful students with plans and dreams.

(This is a syndicated post. Read the original at FreeThoughtBlogs.)



In custody

Jun 18th, 2015 9:29 am | By

Dylann Roof has been arrested. As many of my friends are pointing out on Twitter and Facebook, he won’t be tortured or raped or murdered in custody. He’ll be safe and sound.

The Post and Courier ‏@postandcourier 2h2 hours ago
.@FBI confirms that Dylann Roof, 21, of #Columbia area is suspect in #CharlestonShooting. #chsnews

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Photo of #CharlestonShooting suspect Dylann Roof shows patch of South African apartheid era flag