What level of hate? What hate? It’s not hate to say that a man is not a frog or a lampshade or a car or Albania or sunset over the Pacific. It’s not hate to say that people are not something they are very obviously not – it’s just stating the obvious.
It can of course be cruel to tell people they are ugly or boring or a nuisance, but saying that a man is a man isn’t like that. If there’s any cruelty in this conflict it’s the cruelty of men trying to usurp even being a woman. It’s not hate to tell men they can’t join a group that’s specifically and explicitly for women, and it’s not hate to tell them they’re not women. They may not like it, but that’s another matter.
It’s a kind of egotism, this puffing up ordinary expressions of reality into “cruelty” and wounded feelings and sleepless nights and whole piles of handkerchiefs soaked with tears. Maybe it’s time to grow up now? Hmm?