Originally a comment by Artymorty on Taking all the medals.
My heart breaks to see the Alliance Defending Freedom in there alongside the UN special rapporteur on violence against women and girls. It’s horrifying that the ADF and Reem Alsalem are mentioned side-by-side so casually. And it’s sickening to see so many men and women I thought were allies participating in ADF-organized events.
The ADF are hardcore Christian nationalists who devote massive amounts of effort into recriminalizing homosexuality, and throughout the world, trying to prevent the decriminalization of homosexuality. I don’t hesitate to analogize them as an anti-gay parallel to the KKK. I think they are vile, ignorant bigots of the very worst kind.
There was a time just a few years ago when many — if not most — people online who were vocal critics of gender identity ideology cited their allegiance with gay rights and their fear of a backlash against us as one of the primary reasons they were in this fight.
I guess they had what NASA and the intelligence community call a “failure of imagination“: they didn’t foresee that THEY THEMSELVES would be the ones whose principles would wear down and erode to the point that they became soft on gay rights. But in hindsight it seems kinda obvious: who else would the backlash manifest itself through?
Within GC circles lately I’ve seen gay men called the f-word (the homophobic slur one); I’ve seen arguments that we don’t deserve HIV prophylaxis because AIDS is some kind of necessary moral punishment for promiscuity; that we shouldn’t be allowed to raise children because we’re abnormal and it’s bad for kids; that we’re innately immoral; that we’re pedophlile-adjacent “perverts”…
I don’t know what’s worse, the hardcore GC people who directly engage positively with this bullshit, or the next rung out who shrug and keep their heads down when they see it. I think I might be literally the only person in the GC sphere to be loudly pointing out these awful anti-gay developments that are infiltrating into the core of the movement. And it’s been suggested to me more than once by progressive people that the best way to deal with it is to simply ignore it, lest all that bigotry against gays disillusion me and drive me away from the “greater cause”. The thinking seems to be, don’t call attention to it, or you might make it stronger, because our enemies are watching. But MY thinking is, if you don’t call attention to it, it dominates all by itself no matter who’s fucking watching — y’all are literally giving the game away.
(And as if the natural state of right-wing assholes is to stomp around and make themselves heard, and the natural state of GC liberals is to quietly tolerate them, like to demonstrate our remorse over woke extremism or something?)
My primary cause is gay rights. I’ve suffered so much abuse — even homelessness in my teens and unspeakable other abuses — for no reason other than that I’m a feminine gay man. I cannot ever chill out about anti-gay bigotry and bias. It riles me up. It makes me mad, and it makes me speak my mind. So sue me!
It is in fact my passion for gay rights — as well as women’s rights, having been raised by a feminist single mother who taught me well — that informs my criticism of gender identity ideology. So I get sick to my stomach when I see groups like the ADF holding hands and throwing parties with people who I thought were my fucking friends.
And I’ve just now learned that the ADF are apparently the very group who succeeded in overturning Roe. So I don’t know what anyone is fucking thinking anymore, getting in bed with these assholes.
It seems everyone is being incredibly short-sighted these days. The mind reels…