Originally a comment by Artymorty on More carefully, this time.
I can tell you how I understood trans to be part of the Pride rainbow, and I suspect it’s the same for many others:
I wasn’t paying attention to what was going on. In my mind, I always had a vague discomfort with transsexualism’s connection to gender stereotypes, but told myself not to think too much about it because I didn’t know what their experience felt like and I couldn’t judge, analogous to how homophobes don’t know what being gay feels like and don’t understand that it’s not a choice. And besides, these people were gender-role outsiders like us but only more so, coping with homophobia in their own … Read the rest