Guest post: Reading Whipping Girl 3
Guest post by Lady Mondegreen
Still on Julia Serano’s Trans Woman Manifesto from her book Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity. Last time, you may remember, we looked at Serano’s demand that “[N]o qualifications should be placed on the term “trans woman”, and her definition of cissexism. Now let’s take a look at a neologism she seems to have invented: oppositional sexism, which she contrasts with traditional sexism.
While often different in practice, cissexism, transphobia, and homophobia are all rooted in oppositional sexism, which is the belief that female and male are rigid, mutually exclusive categories, each possessing a unique and nonoverlapping set of attributes, aptitudes, abilities, and desires. Oppositional sexists attempt to punish or dismiss those of us who fall outside of gender or sexual norms because our existence threatens the idea that women and men are “opposite” sexes….
In addition to the rigid, mutually exclusive gender categories established by oppositional sexism, the other requirement for maintaining a male-centered gender hierarchy is to enforce traditional sexism – the belief that maleness and masculinity are superior to femaleness and femininity. Traditional and oppositional sexism work hand in hand to ensure that those who are masculine have power over those who are feminine, and that only those born male will be seen as authentically masculine. For the purposes of this manifesto, the word misogyny will be used to describe this tendency to dismiss and deride femaleness and femininity.
I’m going to skip right over Serano’s confident declaration that the notion that female and male are rigid categories with nonoverlapping sets of attributes is somehow not part and parcel of “traditional” sexism, aka sexism. What interests me here is how Serano partners maleness with masculinity and femaleness with femininity. Serano does this because she wants feminism to be about feminine people as well as females.
Feminists since Simone de Beauvoir have insisted that femininity is an artificial construct that needs to be disassociated from femaleness. They’ve acknowledged that the qualities designated as “feminine” are human qualities that are neither inherent to womanhood, or absent in men. But Serano doesn’t want to jettison femininity, because a big part of her project is to reclaim it. Femininity, per Serano – I’m skipping ahead a bit here – is a real thing, and though it doesn’t always show up in biological women – aka people who were assigned female at birth – it should be respected on a par with its converse, masculinity.
I submit that there are several problems here. One is that femininity is indissolubly associated with femaleness – it’s right there in the word – and as long as biological (“natal”, “Assigned Male at Birth”) males insist that as trans women, they ARE women—and not just women, but FEMALES—the two aren’t going to be decoupled anytime soon.
Another is that you can’t talk about challenging “oppositional” anything and hang on to the notions of masculinity and femininity, because those two things are by their nature oppositional—at least, I’m damned if I can see how one can exist without the other. Masculinity and femininity exist only in relation to each other. And – and this is important – they’re not just oppositional, they’re unequal – not in some absolute or moral sense, I think Serano is right to oppose that sort of thinking – but as strategies for living in the world, one tends to be more functional than the other. One cultivates strength, the other doesn’t; one is active, the other is passive; one leads, the other follows. No human being really is such a walking stereotype as to manifest only one of these –inities all the time, of course, but as a way of being in the world, experiencing oneself more as subject than object, strength, and a disinclination to lean on or blindly follow others, really is superior to its opposite. “Feminine” qualities are the qualities of people who are sheltered and dominated by others. (And objectified: being decorative is an essential part of femininity.)
Now, “benevolent sexism” has been a thing since forever, and femininity has at times been granted its charms—charms seen as complementary to masculinity. Sometimes feminine qualities have even been considered superior to masculine ones in some ways, but the “ways,” when not concerned with supposed sexual purity, mostly involved qualities that made women unsuited for earning their own money. The Victorian Angel in the House was morally superior to ambitious, money-grubbing, adventurous men—as long as she stayed in her (dependent) sphere and remained “feminine.”
It should go without saying that femininity is at least to some extent historically class-based – peasant women did not have the leisure or the means to pursue femininity – but apparently it doesn’t, because Serano doesn’t mention it. Evil ol’ Second Wave feminism – the kind that tackled “traditional sexism”-discussed this quite a lot, but for all their sniping at “white feminism,” I’ve yet to read a trans activist of Serano’s school who has noticed that femininity has always been attributed to middle and upper class, privileged women.
Serano pushes her neologisms and partners “maleness” with “masculinity” and “femaleness” to “femininity” for one reason: she wants to center trans women in feminism (and promote her ideas about gender). Notice that, for her, sexism is not about keeping men in power over women, it is about “[Ensuring] that those who are masculine have power over those who are feminine, and that only those born male will be seen as authentically masculine.”
When Serano insists that “female” and “male” are not categories each possessing “a unique and nonoverlapping set of attributes, [etc.]” I agree. But Serano wants to retain notions of femininity and masculinity—her entire book is pro-femininity. How femininity and masculinity can exist without being mutually exclusive categories, each possessing a unique and nonoverlapping set of attributes, she doesn’t say. I suspect she’d say, well, nobody is completely, or always, one or the other, and I’d agree—but then, where does that leave the notion of “transgender”?
Fantastic guest post.
My SO is purchasing a utility kilt as I write because they’re so hacked off with this bs. Never had an urge to skirt up before but there you go. Enough bloody sexism from the rigid gender theorists.
Lady M, I’m enjoying these posts. Thanks Ophelia for hosting the series.
Picking up on the theme of trans women wanting the femininity, without acknowledging that this is associated largely with middle and upper classes. It is not dissimilar to a person thinking it would be so much better if we could return to the bucolic bliss of an agrarian medieval society. We always imagine ourselves as nobels, knights or maybe merchants. Not the peasant living in poverty and mud with the swine. Or the dreamer of a sci fi utopia. We’re always the captain, or at least someone important. Not the shit kickers keeping the ships plumbing functioning or working in the Death Star canteen.
It’s very human, but also not very rigourous thought. In any time or society most people lack the comparative privileges of the eilite. When imagining ourselves in a new society, or category of person, we need to imagine ourselves at the base of that society or category, not the top, before deciding it would be better if only….
I think I’m going to be quoting that bit on the class-based nature of “feminine” a fair bit. Fantastic post.
So, what are “masculinity” or “femininity” other than the names of “unique and nonoverlapping set[s] of attributes, aptitudes, abilities, and desires” anyway? The apologists of gender ideology are the ones who insist that certain – usually unspecified, but non the less vastly important – differences in mental “attributes, aptitudes, abilities, and desires” between males and females exist, and are in fact the only thing that makes them “male” or “female” in the first place. You cannot take away these implicit claims about what’s going on inside other people’s heads and still have anything left of the gender identity concept. If that’s not “gender essentialism”, then nothing is.
I read ‘reclaiming femininity’ differently when I was first exposed to these ideas–possibly because I didn’t understand what the purveyors were really getting at, it was before this situation got so out of hand, or because I had my own agenda/things I needed to learn, not sure. But what I took away from the concept was that we don’t acknowledge that the activities, interests, predilections, etc. we classify as ‘feminine’ are as significant and challenging as those classified as ‘masculine’, and we should. I was one of those women who grew up learning that ‘man things’ (science, technology, art, literature, philosophy, etc.) were important, and worth our attention and required intellectual effort, skill and expertise to master, while ‘women things’ (relationships, fashion, craft, food, etc.) were not, and did not; it was incredibly valuable to me to understand how I’d been tricked into believing this, and to recognise not only the importance of these parts of everyone’s life but to appreciate the amount of expertise and effort that goes into mastering them. Now I can see the mathematical ability involved in quilting or creating clothing patterns, and the combination of science, aesthetics and technical skill that is required to create a meal. Even the separation of hand production into ‘art’ and ‘craft’ is gendered, and we know that the former is important and rigorous while the latter is unimportant and trivial enough for any unskilled and uneducated person to do.
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In the beginning, I read ‘reclaiming femininity’ the same way, and as a non-feminine woman, it was a tough read. In the end, I agreed that many ‘feminine’ interests and pursuits that I shun have as much value as the more ‘masculine’ things I gravitate to. Equally, there are some things in both categories that should be wiped from the face of the earth, IMHO.
For better or worse, shortly after I accepted THAT understanding of ‘reclaiming femininity’, I first heard the battle cry of “Transwomen are women, FULL STOP!”. This tripped a breaker in my logic circuits in about two nano seconds, and once I rest that I attempted to have some rational discussions with the proponents of that statement, and I bet you can guess how that went.
Here’s an interesting quote from Robin Lakoff, who is undoubtedly an evil second wave feminist. For me it wraps the Tuvel response together with the ‘reclaim femininity’ issue:
“the real deeper problem is the way that in general men feel they have a right to tell women what they mean (a form of “mansplaining”), how they should behave and what they have done wrong. This doesn’t happen to men. ” http://billmoyers.com/story/linguist-robin-lakoff-women-men-american-talk/
I’m going to add to that, that WOMEN tell women what they mean and how they should behave as well. In my opinion, women are the strictest enforcers of femininity. And neither men nor women are reacting to TransWomen Activists’ transgressions against femininity – being loud, aggressive, dominate, pushy, boundary violators – they way they would adult female human beings.
So we have a pile on of Tuvel for not taking everyone’s feelings into account before writing one article, and here’s Serreno not taking MY feelings and likely most non-gender conforming females feelings into account and.. crickets.
Oh, for sure, some folks have objected but they’ve been few and easily stuffed into the box of ‘Evil Second Wave Feminists” and the lid nailed down tightly.
This leaves me with the longing to say to the loud, obnoxious, aggressive, dominate, pushy, boundary violating TransActivists (which are probably a minority in the trans minority) – “Hey, Bitches, you’re not doing Woman Right, even by your own definition! Sit down, shut up and learn to act like a Lady”
(which I really think I did say, long, long ago, in a comment on a blog far, far away)
@cazz Same. And this:
‘neither men nor women are reacting to TransWomen Activists’ transgressions against femininity – being loud, aggressive, dominate, pushy, boundary violators – they way they would adult female human beings.’
is a very good point. As Ophelia said, they have set themselves up to have their cake and eat it too, probably without fully realising it (by which I mean I think most men and plenty of women (including me until only a few years ago) really have no idea of the magnitude of social control exercised on women).
Actually, for me it wasn’t so much acknowledging the value of ‘feminine’ things as recognising their difficulty. It’s not easy to feed kids every day–it takes not only stamina but also creativity and skill. Doing makeup is hard. It takes as much expertise and practice as painting anything else at that scale (possibly more, as there are more variables involved). Picking out the right clothes, decorating a house, doing someone’s hair–these are all things that, although plenty of people do them badly, can be done with as much skill, and requires as much skill to do well, as writing an essay or solving an equation.
Thanks for the kind words, everyone.
guest, and cazz, I appreciate your discussion of femininity. Talking about “femininity” is difficult because it’s more a complex of things than a single thing. I’ve been treating femininity and masculinity as attributes of personality the way Bjarte Foshaug does @#4 —
–rather than the broader realm of work, hobbies, etc. Your points–that things in that broader realm commonly considered feminine–woman stuff, as it were–often require skill, expertise, practice, and tend to be devalued, are well-taken. (They’re also vitally important–think child care.) But I don’t think Serano is talking about women’s work when she talks about femininity. She’s talking about what she calls “those who are feminine”–in other words, personalities (and, I assume, appearance).
Femininity, and anything perceived to belong properly to women, gets devalued. But it doesn’t get devalued because it’s innately feminine; it gets devalued because women do it, and then it gets called feminine. My go-to example: clerical and secretarial work were respected when men did them; when women moved into those fields they began to pay less (natch) and the work began to be seen as feminine (helping work ideally done by decorative young things).
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@Lady Mondegreen I agree with your points as well, but I think the understanding I came to as a result of being exposed to Serrano’s ideas (I don’t think I ever read her book) is somewhere between the two. What I learned is not ‘women’s work is important but undervalued’ (I think I already knew that) but more like ‘things women stereotypically care about are as worth caring about as much as things men stereotypically care about’, and ‘the ways women stereotypically behave are different but not lesser than the ways men stereotypically behave’. I may not be quite on board yet with viewing fashion, makeup and hairstyles as art forms, for example, but at least I’ve stopped sneering at people who put effort, intellect and passion into them. I hope I’ve also learned to stop the nasty habit of in myself of mentally taking a few points off the IQ of anyone I meet who has clearly put a lot of energy into selecting trendy clothes, or overly ‘feminine’ clothes (I still remember, as a grad student in the ’80s, feeling some disdain for a woman engineer in a frilly ‘childish’ looking blouse), has spent a lot of money on her hair, has a manicure that took hours to apply, speaks with a high and/or inflected voice, uses ‘feminine’ gestures and body language, etc. I may have chosen, due to my upbringing, not to care about or participate in these activities but that doesn’t make people who do stupid, vain or trivial. So yeah, that was an important thing for me, personally, to have learned.
Sorry for the shameless self-promotion, but I can’t resist quoting something I wrote earlier that seems highly relevant to the current conversation:
Bjarte, I’ve been thinking about your post. The first mindset you mention, “we’re all the same on the inside,” was the dominant attitude among liberals when I was growing up (born 1958).
Now the second is dominant.
It occurred to me that the problem with the first perspective is not that it’s wrong per se–it’s that it tends to be too optimistic about human nature. I think the first one is, on the whole, a better–more useful–perspective to adopt for thinking about social justice. But not in its naive form. Instead we should realize that we all have totalitarian tendencies, that many (most? all?) of us could under the right circumstances be or could have been ISIS recruits (or whatever our local flavor of oppressive thug happens to be).
And the point of that knowledge is not to feel all cuddlywarm with poor deluded ISIS (“there but for the grace of god”) but to understand clearly that behavior we deplore is also part of human nature–including our own–so that we can fight it more effectively in others and in ourselves.
I sometimes think the Christian notion of “original sin” has some value, if only as a counterweight moral smugness. (Of course they later came up with the even worse notion of election, so, never mind.)
Lady M, That’s a fair point. I was trying to take some of that into account with my sentence about distinguishing between innate and cultural differences. Physically human brains may all be constructed in pretty much the same ways, with all their innate flaws and biases, but that doesn’t mean that whatever ideas and attitudes they acquire from the surrounding culture are fundamentally the same as well.
Just to be clear, I wasn’t criticizing, just sharing thoughts that occurred to me after reading your comment.
Oh, I didn’t think you were criticizing. But if you did, that would be fine too. I enjoy the series BTW :)
Thanks! :)