Promises promises
The stupidity of “India” Willoughby takes the breath away.
Before offering your opinion on the latest move by the government to improve the ‘NHS Charter’ – ask yourself this.
How would you feel if a woman you know, perhaps vulnerable, was forced into being treated in an all-male ward at a hospital. How would that woman feel?
Apparently he thinks men are the only people who know how to read. We who are reading this thing he has written must be men, so the way to get us to think about the issue is to present a hypothetical about a woman we know. It doesn’t occur to him to ask us how we would feel, because it doesn’t occur to him that any of us could be women. That’s quite a blind spot.
Terrified, most likely. And that is exactly how I would feel in the same situation. My instincts are the same as most women – I just happen to be trans.
That is, he just happens to be a man who likes to pretend to be a woman.
So, he underlines the fact that women fear being forced into all-male wards as an argument that he should be allowed on female wards.
You couldn’t make it up.
“Women fear being helpless in the presence of men, and that’s why I, a man, should be allowed to join helpless women in their women-only wards.”
And he put this in writing for a news outlet. It’s jaw-dropping.
Also – on the one hand it’s the male wards that are the horror and insult, but on the other hand no he damn well will not accept a single room because [????????]. He starts with “Oh imagine the fear for some random woman you know” and continues with “How dare you offer me a single rooom??!!”
Let me be clear. I would never, ever go on an all-male hospital ward. I’d rather die at the scene of my injury or illness than be placed on one.
Ministers say that trans patients could be treated in separate rooms – but that is just humiliating segregation, hinged on the idea that my presence around cis women is offensive or dangerous.
He’d rather die than go on an all-male ward! A separate room is humiliating! The only solution is to let him terrorize and humiliate women! Obviously!
Again, I need them to know that when I say I’d rather die than go on an male ward, I’m serious.
He seems to think that’s some kind of conversation stopper. He seems to think we would miss him.
I do hope that this quote gets circulated to the admissions department of every NHS hospital in the UK so he could be asked to verify his wish should he ever require treatment.
It’s so damned easy to have strong principles when they’re not being tested.
Interesting mix of words. ‘Woman” – per their team, this is a word denoting gender. “Male” – this one denotes a sex. Odd how the word selection changes depending on the purpose; here, the idea is to make a person think ‘female’ and oh no isn’t it awful to put (sotto voce) female women on the male ward!!
But if women are a gender and not a sex, then it is possible for a woman to be male. Obviously, trans women.
While we’re at it, why do zoos force trans-giraffes to stay in the lion habitat?
If he had the “instincts of a woman” he would have an understanding of the problem that admitting trans-ID males into women’s wards causes for women. But, he doesn’t because he is a guy. He only knows he wants his way and there is no awareness nor empathy for those who are actual women.
So shall we call that a DNR order, then?
Isn’t it though? If he were serious he would have a card or bracelet with this request for death before sharing hospital accommodations with other men, spelled out in the event of his incapacitation. Imagine his horror if his wishes were not followed, and he were to wake up in a male ward or a private room!
But then, he might know what he’s asking for. He might not be using the appropriate Trans Harm Conversion Factor, or THCF. This is the mathematical operation by which tranactivists magnify any slight or criticism against themselves (misgendering = assault, questioning gender ideology = genocide), and minimize their own offences against critics (assault = impassioned defense, death threats = playful banter, understandable and fully justified hyperbole, or “just joking”). Calibrations seem to vary, but the conversion in either direction is at least several orders of magnitude. (Tested empirically against actual, physical injury, this generally works out roughly to PAPERCUT ⇔ BEHEADING, depending on the direction. Coming up with exact figures is much more difficult when you try to plug in metaphorical injuries (also known as “actual violence) or sarcasm on one side of the transformation function. It’s like dividing any number by by zero.) So if you have the controls set for the wrong polarity, it’s like giving a price in yen as a price in dollars. YIKES! All those extra zeros! It’s necessary, therefore to keep this in mind when matters of “harm” and “injury” are bandied about by transactivists.
So, it could very well be that when Willoughby claims he’d prefer death by bleeding out in a car wreck, to being housed with other men (and yes, India, it would be with other men), “death” he’s talking about might be more akin to the feeling he experiences when someone else shows up at a function he’s attending, and she’s wearing the same outfit that he is. And when he reiterates this desire for death by saying “Again, I need them to know that when I say I’d rather die than go on an male ward, I’m serious,” this is in fact a threat to hold his breath until he turns blue if he doesn’t get his way. A preference for death? Please. I don’t believe you. Again, I need them to know that when I say I’d rather die than go on an male ward, I’m serious.
Don’t go away mad “India,” just go away.
Oops. Something didn’t carry through. What I’d intended was:
PAPERCUT (arrow point left, equals sign, arrow pointing right) BEHEADING.
Just to be safe, before beginning CPR any responder should make sure there’s an appropriate LARPers-only hospital ward available first.
I made 3 tries but couldn’t make it work so just put in a slash.
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Probably the first one:
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but with no spaces.
I’m feel like there’s an Ebenezer Scrooge quote appropriate to his assertion…
Thank you!
I knew that computer science degree would come in handy someday.
All-male wards by definition don’t treat females, but I suppose it would depend on the urgency and type of treatment. A doctor is a doctor (usually) in an emergency, for lack of options. Most women I know, or would be willing to hang out with, wouldn’t have a problem with getting medical care if they urgently needed it, without regard for the sex of their doctor, I mean they’re not dating the doctor ffs — but then again, none of the women I know are ungrateful, overly dramatic men. Maybe he’s thinking of psych wards or prison hospitals (or something), but he’s probably just talking shit as usual.
I agree that his claim is the worst kind of hyperbole. I’ve been the only woman on a ward otherwise filled with men, on several different occasions, in several different hospitals, in three different countries, on both hemispheres. On each occasion, I would have preferred to be on a ward where all the other patients were women; but I vastly preferred getting the bed I did, to the alternative – dying. I bet he hasn’t come close to dying yet, and so has absolutely no idea how tenaciously a human hangs on to life when it’s threatened.
Many moons ago I shared a ward with seven women. Hospital policy at the time was mixed wards for orthopedic patients. I guess it made it easier for the surgeons follow up visits.
Five women ignored me, the woman to my right bonded with me. We shared a similar injury, me a shattered elbow, her a shattered ankle and we had both endured 3+ hour Ambulance rides with minimal pain relief due to heavy snowfalls.
From the moment she saw me arrive, the seventh woman kept the curtains around her bed closed at all times. Her bed was directly opposite mine. When staff tried to leave the curtain open, she got quite upset. I thought she was being a bit OTT.
Now, twenty years later a better informed me understands that she may have had all sorts of valid reasons for not wanting a man in the same ward, from a simple desire for privacy from the male gaze to perhaps a victim of DV or worse.
None of us had a choice of ward but were the same to happen again, I would ask if at all possible to be in a ward without women, not for my sake, but for the sake of those women.
I legitimately cannot think of a single woman (or man, for that matter) who wouldn’t be thrilled to be treated in a single room rather than a ward. Single rooms are so popular that private health insurance funds promote a number of their products as a guarantee of precisely that.
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This dude is utterly ridiculous (as well as a degenerate fetishist).
Being treated in a single room is much better for the patient’s recovery (not being continually disturbed by others) and will often enable them to heal more quickly (due to the lack of disruption) so that they can leave sooner, enabling someone else who needs that bed to be treated. There are a number of reasons why single rooms are the best option – if the patient is autistic, she will be much less stressed out by not having to continually deal with random people coming in and out, strangers around her, and noise from equipment, for example. Other factors have similar impacts, such as history of trauma (same elements apply). All these factors affect recovery time and long-term mental health, as well as the physical healing. This is obvious if you actually view women as real people, rather than as a collection of bizarre stereotypes rattling around in some dude’s otherwise-empty head.
Treatment in separate rooms within single sex wards (for female safety/privacy) is the ideal setup for many. Only utterly selfish and narcissistic males would fail to even consider what factors might affect female patients when he’s demanding validation for his pathetic LARP. He’s literally complaining about not being able to inflict his presence on vulnerable women (who cannot leave, because they need medical care), being unable to make them all uncomfortable and potentially unsafe by staring at them and trying to dominate everything (because narc male), because it seems to *finally* have occurred to NHS Management that single sex wards are essential for female safety. Possibly only because there have been a number of these men attacking the women stuck on the ward with them, and it’s getting rather difficult to hide these incidents from everyone else, because women keep pointing out that this keeps happening. Also the stats for what these men tend to have acquired convictions for…
He is complaining about not being able to bully women, and force them to play along with his perversion of reality. This at a time when they have actual problems – health concerns, how they will manage after surgery etc., how much money did they lose whilst being unable to work, do they need to try to deal with the benefits system (Kafka-esque nightmare of bureaucratic bullshit) and so on. None of their priorities involve “validating” some fetishist trying to skinwalk them. That is just totally unnecessary stress on top of everything else.
He’s whining that other people have needs of their own, and aren’t purely props for his fantasy. That’s it. Bullying, predatory *male*.
Sooo “marginalised”, soooo “vulnerable”, right?
Just another example of privilege this middle aged, white, male human enjoys – the privilege of not being at risk of dying. While most of us DO in fact enjoy that privilege for most of our lives, there are many who do not, and he wants to subject his privileged self on their pain, AND make sure they aren’t allowed to complain. I suspect the patient the Rev was in the ward with, the one who pulled the curtains around her bed, is probably in this day and age considered a hateful, bigoted, racist, Nazi, Karen.