While I will never relinquish the position that males actually can be feminists, um … To most men who claim the label, it is nothing more than a means of increasing their own social standing.
Unfortunately, the same seems to be true of many women I talk to. Convinced they may be that patriarchy is a thing to be opposed, but the moment feminism demands opposing the whims of men (such as in sports), subordinating females suddenly stops mattering. Commitment to feminist ideals lasts only as long as it represents immediate personal benefit.
Nullius: I’ve even stopped referring to myself as a ‘feminist ally’. Instead, if asked about the subject or it comes up, I say I’m allied with feminism. Keeping it in the verb form reminds me that I’m only being an ally when I’m doing things that help feminist goals. I get why feminist women wouldn’t call me a feminist, even when I’m in complete agreement with their agenda, because they know damned well I could always just decide to walk away–in the end, my skin in the game is limited to whatever empathy I have for the actual women in my life. And honestly, accepting a second-tier status within the movement is setting a better example for my fellow males who might want to support the movement.
Uh, Ophelia, it’s important to realize that men are the real feminists. If you don’t give into us, it’s your fault when you can’t get abortions. HTH.
While I will never relinquish the position that males actually can be feminists, um … To most men who claim the label, it is nothing more than a means of increasing their own social standing.
Unfortunately, the same seems to be true of many women I talk to. Convinced they may be that patriarchy is a thing to be opposed, but the moment feminism demands opposing the whims of men (such as in sports), subordinating females suddenly stops mattering. Commitment to feminist ideals lasts only as long as it represents immediate personal benefit.
Nullius: I’ve even stopped referring to myself as a ‘feminist ally’. Instead, if asked about the subject or it comes up, I say I’m allied with feminism. Keeping it in the verb form reminds me that I’m only being an ally when I’m doing things that help feminist goals. I get why feminist women wouldn’t call me a feminist, even when I’m in complete agreement with their agenda, because they know damned well I could always just decide to walk away–in the end, my skin in the game is limited to whatever empathy I have for the actual women in my life. And honestly, accepting a second-tier status within the movement is setting a better example for my fellow males who might want to support the movement.