But we didn’t invite them
Wait, though.
It sounds cuddly and friendly…until you think about it. People wanting to “join” you, whether you invited them to or not, whether you want them to or not, whether you have told them to go away and leave you alone or not, are not being warm and loving and full of solidarity – they’re being creepy, intrusive, demanding, and ultimately domineering and rapey.
We don’t have to welcome everyone who wants to join us, no questions asked, no matter what. It depends. In a public place where anyone can be anywhere then yes, people can join you. If you’re in a park or a theater or a restaurant, people can join you in those spaces. But if they want to join you in your living room, your kitchen, your shower? No, then you get a veto.
Being a woman is more like being in your shower than it is like being in a park. Men can’t join you in it without hogging the soap and knocking you over. Not invited.
Jane Caro is a handmaiden to the men self id’ing as women.
She has gone so far down the rabbit hole that she thinks that all TIMs are made of Unicorn Farts and are not a danger to women or girls. She sets the bar low, in a subsequent tweet “Hmmm, haven’t killed anyone so far though have they? It is important to remain proportionate.” So anything up to killing women is AOK with Caro.
Totally self-absorbed and has not kept abreast of the fact that men identifying as women HAVE raped and killed women, and some are in women’s prisons where they can get access to more potential victims.
I used to have a lot of respect for her insight on other issues, especially her advocacy for better funding of government schools, but now seeing her name on an article leaves me reluctant to read on.
I used to admire her too. This is depressing.
Trans women only want to join you!
…in your changing rooms
…in your rape shelters
…in your toilets
…in your sports divisions
…in your crime statistics
…in your searches and pat-downs
…in your women-only quotas
…in your ‘first woman to X’ records
That’s not joining with, that intruding.
Holms, not only intruding but in some cases actually displacing. They are determined to break women’s barriers and boundaries, and don’t care who gets hurt as long as they get their jollies (and they aren’t the one who get hurt). They want to claim the banner of oppressed without ever actually being oppressed.
I completely agree with the sentiment expressed in this blog post. It’s important to prioritize our safety and wellbeing as feminists, and that means focusing on those who actively seek to harm us. However, I do have a question regarding the statement about not having to welcome everyone who wants to join us. Where do we draw the line between being inclusive and accepting of others who share our values and beliefs, and setting boundaries to protect ourselves from harmful individuals? It’s a delicate balance, and I’m curious to hear others’ thoughts on this. How can we create a welcoming and supportive community while also being vigilant about our safety and wellbeing?