In other words, they’re turning personalities and preferences into different sexes. Not ‘genders,’ since they conflate the two.
Btw, I came across a Gender Dictionary A-Z which is apparently not satire and contains the following:
Cassflux– When your level of indifference towards your gender fluctuates.
Cassgender– Feeling as if the very concept of gender is unimportant to you.
Cogitogender– A gender that only exists when you think about it, is quiet until called to attention, or is characterized as feeling genderless until a gender is consciously chosen.
Fluidflux– A combination of genderfluid and genderflux, where gender moves between two or more genders and also fluctuates in intensity.
Foggender– A gender which is close to a certain gender, but cannot be directly pinpointed due to brainfog (a lack of concentration or wakefulness associated with ADHD, fibromyalgia, depression, etc.)
Gendervague– A gender not definable with words because of one’s status as neurodivergent.
Juxera– Feminine gender similar to girl, but on a separate plane and off to itself.
Illusogender– Knowing that you’re a certain gender, but still feeling ‘fakeness’ there, either due to neurodivergency and/or due to outside pressure from parents, society, etc. These feelings and/or pressures can be part of the gender experience.
Impediogender- A gender which is most often subdued or silent, but becomes more intense whenever it is challenged or one is in a situation in which their gender makes things more difficult.
Imperigender– A fluid gender that can be controlled by its owner.
Impesgender- A gender that flips quickly and impulsively, often too quickly to be traced.
Necrogender– A gender that used to exist but is now ‘dead’ or nonexistent.
Nesciogender– A gender one is not completely sure of due to one’s neurotype disallowing a clear understanding of the concept, but has a vague sense of what it could be; i.e. nescioboy, nescioagender, etc.
In order to accommodate everyone, we’re going to have to move to a planet with shorter days and longer years. Jupiter’s year has 4,333 days: that might hold things for a while.
This is what happens when people think their sexual identity is (1) the most important thing about them; and (2) something other people give a flying fuck about. Frankly, these whiny “folx” who constant insist I care about their sex life are boring as hell. They say cist-hetero are boring? Yeah, well, maybe not if we are able to talk about things other than sex and our own sexual fetishes and sex life.
I don’t care about your sexual orientation; if you want me to find you interesting, talk about science or philosophy or politics or history or music or art or ANYTHING other than your sex life. Frankly, I would rather see pictures of your kids…and that tells you exactly how interesting I don’t find it.
The only reason any aromantic would have problems is that people get sick and tired of them talking about not wanting to have any sort of romantic life. For most people, we are perfectly fine if you have no romantic life. It’s nothing to us, and we neither oppress you nor congratulate you, because WE DON’T CARE. And if that makes you feel invalidated…find a therapist. You need help.
As a seriously “aromantic” person for most of my life, WTF is “the aromantic community”? Not having romantic entanglements leaves me entirely free to belong to lots of other communities. Legal community, rec softball league community, neighborhood friends community, political community, needlecraft community, and anything else under the sun. The point of being aromantic is to NOT belong to any kind of community revolving around romantic relationships. To not think about it. To do other things.
These people have too much time on their hands, and too few interests besides themselves. Narcissism, solipsism, self-indulgence, emotionally stunted development — all part of every aspect of the gender religion/industry. It says nothing, does nothing, creates nothing. It just grabs everything it can to itself, never mind who gets hurt.
iknklast, it would be more cost effective for the cards to have a list of identities to delete as necessary or to check the relevant boxes.
It sounds far-fetched but I wouldn’t be surprised to see such cards in the shops. Greetings card retailers already sell cards that weren’t available just a few years ago. I was looking around one shop before the lockdown (I got bored while waiting for Mrs. o’S.) and saw cards for Mum and Stepdad/Dad and Stepmum, Stepson/Stepdaughter, Step Grandparent/Grandchild: wedding and anniversary cards to Son and Husband/ Daughter and Wife, and even a ‘congratulations on your coming out’ card, so multi-gender themes can’t be too far away now.
Okay, a SMALL token of understanding, here; I fully believe that ‘aromantics’ often have to deal with petty annoyances surrounding people asking them why they don’t have significant others, aren’t dating, etc. (I know a few decades ago, not having a spouse/SO of the opposite sex was often cited as evidence that you must be a closeted homosexual, and I fully suspect this is still the case in some parts of the US.)
There ARE a lot of judgy people out there who will assume that something is ‘wrong’ with you for not wanting to have a romantic relationship, or who will tell you that you ‘just haven’t met the right person, yet’. And of course, a young woman wanting a tubal ligation because she doesn’t want to procreate (as part of her broader lack of interest in romance and sex) will be told that she doesn’t really know what she wants.
So yes, I suspect that depending on your physical community, being aromantic means putting up with a lot of shit. But it’s definitely not a ‘persecuted class’ along the lines of racial minorities or women or non-dominant religious beliefs, and claiming it is is just… petulant and childish.
I suspect that it goes back to the notion of ‘microaggressions’. Originally, the term was used to refer to small slights that served to remind oppressed groups of their proper place–they seem small if removed from their context, but that context is so ever-present in our society that pretending it’s no big deal is ignoring the implicit threat that goes along with them.
But having learned that small offenses can be used to wield and reinforce oppression, folks have internalized the notion that small offenses are, in themselves, oppression per se.
I know a few decades ago, not having a spouse/SO of the opposite sex was often cited as evidence that you must be a closeted homosexual, and I fully suspect this is still the case in some parts of the US
Yeah, my husband was assumed homosexual because he was 47 before we married…and a…gasp, choke…librarian! Once we married, everyone assumed he was not, because, I guess, gay people can’t marry the opposite sex? Does their hair fall out if they do? Do parts fall off their body?
Interesting opposite: My ex was assumed heterosexual because we married in our early 20s and had a child; nope. He’s not heterosexual (though I didn’t know that at the time).
In other words, they’re turning personalities and preferences into different sexes. Not ‘genders,’ since they conflate the two.
Btw, I came across a Gender Dictionary A-Z which is apparently not satire and contains the following:
Will they all get their own week?
Not before I get my not liking peanut butter cookies week, I hope! Fair is fair!
In order to accommodate everyone, we’re going to have to move to a planet with shorter days and longer years. Jupiter’s year has 4,333 days: that might hold things for a while.
Every week is not liking peanut butter cookies week. Solidarity!!
“… it can be very alienating to the aromantic community.”
Yeah, well fuck them.
Being on the spectrum myself, this makes me feel seen.
ETA: Oops, sorry. Didn’t see the ‘n’ there.
I propose a week of awareness for the Aromatic – people who smell strangely nice.
This is what happens when people think their sexual identity is (1) the most important thing about them; and (2) something other people give a flying fuck about. Frankly, these whiny “folx” who constant insist I care about their sex life are boring as hell. They say cist-hetero are boring? Yeah, well, maybe not if we are able to talk about things other than sex and our own sexual fetishes and sex life.
I don’t care about your sexual orientation; if you want me to find you interesting, talk about science or philosophy or politics or history or music or art or ANYTHING other than your sex life. Frankly, I would rather see pictures of your kids…and that tells you exactly how interesting I don’t find it.
The only reason any aromantic would have problems is that people get sick and tired of them talking about not wanting to have any sort of romantic life. For most people, we are perfectly fine if you have no romantic life. It’s nothing to us, and we neither oppress you nor congratulate you, because WE DON’T CARE. And if that makes you feel invalidated…find a therapist. You need help.
@ Mike B #5
Hilarious!
Fuck them? No! They don’t want to be fucked!
As a seriously “aromantic” person for most of my life, WTF is “the aromantic community”? Not having romantic entanglements leaves me entirely free to belong to lots of other communities. Legal community, rec softball league community, neighborhood friends community, political community, needlecraft community, and anything else under the sun. The point of being aromantic is to NOT belong to any kind of community revolving around romantic relationships. To not think about it. To do other things.
These people have too much time on their hands, and too few interests besides themselves. Narcissism, solipsism, self-indulgence, emotionally stunted development — all part of every aspect of the gender religion/industry. It says nothing, does nothing, creates nothing. It just grabs everything it can to itself, never mind who gets hurt.
maddog1129:
It’ll probably turn out that the whole gender spectrum thing was secretly invented by the greeting card industry.
latsot, if a person has multiple gender identities, do you have to buy greeting cards for each one of them?
Ikn,
Happily, I do not work for Big Card so I can’t help you.
iknklast, it would be more cost effective for the cards to have a list of identities to delete as necessary or to check the relevant boxes.
It sounds far-fetched but I wouldn’t be surprised to see such cards in the shops. Greetings card retailers already sell cards that weren’t available just a few years ago. I was looking around one shop before the lockdown (I got bored while waiting for Mrs. o’S.) and saw cards for Mum and Stepdad/Dad and Stepmum, Stepson/Stepdaughter, Step Grandparent/Grandchild: wedding and anniversary cards to Son and Husband/ Daughter and Wife, and even a ‘congratulations on your coming out’ card, so multi-gender themes can’t be too far away now.
Okay, a SMALL token of understanding, here; I fully believe that ‘aromantics’ often have to deal with petty annoyances surrounding people asking them why they don’t have significant others, aren’t dating, etc. (I know a few decades ago, not having a spouse/SO of the opposite sex was often cited as evidence that you must be a closeted homosexual, and I fully suspect this is still the case in some parts of the US.)
There ARE a lot of judgy people out there who will assume that something is ‘wrong’ with you for not wanting to have a romantic relationship, or who will tell you that you ‘just haven’t met the right person, yet’. And of course, a young woman wanting a tubal ligation because she doesn’t want to procreate (as part of her broader lack of interest in romance and sex) will be told that she doesn’t really know what she wants.
So yes, I suspect that depending on your physical community, being aromantic means putting up with a lot of shit. But it’s definitely not a ‘persecuted class’ along the lines of racial minorities or women or non-dominant religious beliefs, and claiming it is is just… petulant and childish.
I suspect that it goes back to the notion of ‘microaggressions’. Originally, the term was used to refer to small slights that served to remind oppressed groups of their proper place–they seem small if removed from their context, but that context is so ever-present in our society that pretending it’s no big deal is ignoring the implicit threat that goes along with them.
But having learned that small offenses can be used to wield and reinforce oppression, folks have internalized the notion that small offenses are, in themselves, oppression per se.
Yeah, my husband was assumed homosexual because he was 47 before we married…and a…gasp, choke…librarian! Once we married, everyone assumed he was not, because, I guess, gay people can’t marry the opposite sex? Does their hair fall out if they do? Do parts fall off their body?
Interesting opposite: My ex was assumed heterosexual because we married in our early 20s and had a child; nope. He’s not heterosexual (though I didn’t know that at the time).
People have too many stereotypes.
I thought Necrogender would be “I consider myself deep down inside…dead”