Safe at home
As always, women take the hit.
The “stay home, stay safe” mantra against the coronavirus is having dreadful — and even deadly — consequences for women in Turkey, where, activists warn, measures to contain the outbreak are exacerbating the rampant problem of femicide and domestic violence in the country.
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At least 18 women have been killed across Turkey, 12 of them at home, since March 11, when Ankara confirmed its first COVID-19 case, according to the We Will Stop Femicide Platform, a civic group dedicated to fighting violence against women. The killers included spouses, partners, ex-husbands and ex-partners as well as male relatives of the victims, the platform’s tally shows.
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About 470 women were killed in Turkey last year, at least half of them by husbands, partners, exes and male relatives, the platform says.
If something goes wrong, attack the nearest woman.
“Cis privilege” my ass…
Meanwhile, in Malaysia the Ministry for Women, Family and Community Development is telling women how to be nice to their husbands:
And the mens gotta learn to hunt:
Oyyyy…
#2
New meme template needed: ‘laughing into my hand because I am also facepalming’
18 deaths in 20 days (the article is dated 3/31) is a lower rate than 470 deaths in a year. Tragic yes, but hardly evidence of a soaring rate of femicide.
Men who are not used to shopping always look like shoplifters. Especially in the toiletries aisle.
Well, yeah. That order is like a taunt. It couldn’t have been better conceived to prod even the most fair-minded men outside. If he doesn’t go out, it’s saying to the entire community that he’s not the head of the household, that he’s weak, that he needs his wife to handle things ’cause he’s just a little manbaby.
I’m going to issue an order that only the smart person in the household should go, or the moral person, or the [insert value adjective] person more generally.
The inability of men to use the grocery store tells us a lot about the structure of the society. I can send my husband to the grocery store for me, and he will come back with exactly what is on the list without problems – unless I request either a zucchini or a cucumber, which for some reason he cannot tell apart. He can read the labels, however, so that allows even gourds. We usually shop together, and while there are some things I eat that he does not, he does know where to find them in the store.
Patriarchy turns women into slaves and men into helpless babies.
I have been shopping for myself for 30+ years and I still have no idea how to shop for groceries. Now I gotta shop for my parents too! The farmer’s market is even worse because I always buy way too much for one person, since I usually go later on Saturday when the prices go way down and I have no self control. Two boxes of strawberries for $1? Gimme 4! (a slight exaggeration).
I’m either incredibly sheltered, incredibly lucky, or both. The idea that it is normal for men to be so utterly clueless and helpless baffles me. I thought that it was just an out-dated joke based on 1950s stereotypes (which were never generally true in any case – hence the joke). All my male relatives and friends are/were perfectly OK with taking care of themselves. I don’t know any men who aren’t competent at shopping, cooking and housework. Where do the useless ones come from? Do they never, ever, live on their own before finding a woman who is not their mother to live with? All my sons have looked after themselves for years, including the two who are married. I expected them to be able to take care of their rooms, and to get food for themselves, from before they reached their teens. Of course, they came shopping with me throughout childhood, and as soon as they were old enough (around six and up) I would send them on errands to find various items off my shopping list around the supermarket as I did the usual aisle-zig-zag with the trolley. They grew up seeing their father cook, clean and do the shopping. That is exclusively his responsibility now, of course, thanks my being in strict lockdown and currently too overwhelmed by my health problems to do anything much to help. Even though most of our grocery shopping is now done online, with a few items for us being added to her weekly shop by our daughter, he plans it all and only reads me the list before sending it in case there is something I fancy which isn’t on it (there usually isn’t).
After reading Tigger’s comment I wanted to add that I have been taking care of everything myself (shopping, cooking, cleaning, etc.) and enjoy the cooking part at least. I’m just a terrible shopper in that I shop when I’m hungry, almost never have a list, never follow a proper zig-zag, often miss buying the one or 2 items I went for in the first place, don’t use coupons, etc. Basically every wrong habit possible, including shopping around 4:30 in the afternoon.