Guest post: The child deals with life by wearing pink and flowers
Originally a comment by iknklast on You there: get out.
though you’ve likely never met a single transgender child
To add: this is a huge assumption on your part. Like the Christians that people my front porch on Saturday mornings, you assume that we would automatically change our minds if we ever met a single person who fits in the group being discussed.
In fact, I have known several. It was the situation of one of those children that caused me to question my support for the trans lobby, which had prior to that been unwavering. When I saw the way that child was ushered into trans while going through therapy for anxiety following a series of tragic events in his life, including the extremely violent accidental death of his father, I started to question the reality of the trans experience. Instead of dealing with the issues this child had (legitimate issues), the therapist declared him a girl, and now the child deals with life by wearing pink and flowers. The number of symptoms of the DSM that the trans advocates have adopted as signs that you are trans appears to be approaching 100%, and the ordinary every day experiences of life that people go through that have been adopted as symptoms of trans also appears to be reaching critical mass. In fact, reading the list of indicators that you might be trans leaves me breathless, and realizing that, if this is true, we are all trans.
I have never forgotten the day my own therapist asked me if I wanted to be male, because of my struggles with the female expectations laid on me by the world. I told him no, I just wanted to be allowed to be a woman in my own way. He nodded, moved on, and worked with me toward reaching my goal. I have now seen things written and speeches made by therapists who are proud of the fact that they do not accept that answer, and will do what they can to persuade the child they are, in fact, wanting to be the opposite sex.
When refusing to wear barrettes is hailed as a sign of being “pre-literate trans” rather than possibly “pre-literate feminist”, I find it questionable. When girls are encouraged to transition because they like short hair and pants, I find it questionable. When men tell me they feel “euphoric” when they are treated like a woman, I find it questionable.
At this point, I think the fact that I know as many trans as I do in my small circle of acquaintances is a red flag for me.
Ever see the checklists those studies frequently used to determine gender?
Here’s the Personal Attributes Questionnaire (PAQ)
http://www.yorku.ca/rokada/psyctest/paq.pdf
And here’s the Ben Sex Role Inventory (BSRI):
https://www.researchgate.net/figure/Items-of-the-Bem-Sex-Role-Inventory_tbl1_260553861
Nothing sexist here, nothing stereotypical at all. It’s just that girls are yielding and give up easily, and boys are assertive and analytical.
If “gender identity” forms in the brain of the developing fetus — going awry from time to time — then where are the little girls who insist they’re boys that likes pink and flowers, and where are the little boys playing roughhouse in the dirt who who persist in claiming they’re really girls? Instead, it always follows the relentless cultural messages, just as if it were a matter of socialization instead of biology.
Something that seems to escape almost everyone’s attention is that “trans kids” and trans adults are usually not the same people at all:
The kids with dysphoria or gender confusion almost always grew up to be homosexual adults, not transsexual adults. Transsexual adult males usually weren’t dysphoric when they were kids. Take out your old high school yearbook. Want to know which of your classmates became trans? Don’t look to the student LGBT club, or the boys with the long hair and the dresses. Most of them are just gay (although a small number of them may have transitioned). Look at the high school football team, the IT club, the engineering class. That’s where the future trans women are.
This new “affirmation” protocol to treat “trans” kids was designed by adult activists to mask the fact that many trans adults were not dysphoric or effeminate from early childhood — that is to say, their transsexualism isn’t underpinned by any kind of “natural”, “latent” femininity.
The claim that “affirmation” saves “trans” kids’ lives is demonstrably false: people who had childhood or adolescents dysphoria before “affirmation” was introduced and “trans kids” were invented — people who came of age in the ’90s, the ’80s, the ’70s, the ’60s, etc. — did not all die of suicide, we’re alive and well, and we haven’t been quietly suffering through ongoing dysphoria this whole time: our distress resolved itself and we are mostly happy healthy homosexuals, and we are right here in front of you!
YES! I’ve thought for some time that TRAs are using “trans” kids as cannon fodder. TIMs want self ID, without the need for surgery. So what’s the point of clamouring for puberty blockers, surgery, etc., for kids, when adult, AGP TIMs want everyone to move towards unquestioned acceptance on just the individual’s say so, without surgery, certifcates or anything? They get to use the alleged suicidal ideation of trans kids as a shield. You MUST NOT EVER question ANY of the trans dogma because to do so is LITERAL VIOLENCE and TRANS PEOPLE WILL DIE!!! It’s a convenient way to shut down debate, deplatform gender critical speakers and events, and have a wide range of societal institutions and bodies take trans ideology on board, unexamined and unquestioned. They get to hide the fact that for AGP TIMs, “womanhood” is just a costume they get off on wearing. So much of the elaboration of the trans “rights” movement is window dressing a campaign against kink shaming. Other kinksters must be so envious of the fact that AGP TIMs have been able to latch onto and burrow into the Gay Liberation movement and achieve such a degree of social recognition and legitimacy so rapidly. Maybe those into “puppy play” could glom onto the Animal Rights movement…
That TRAs appropriate (see, good progressive language!) and deliberately misrepresent the condition and plight of intersex people with DSD is not of concern to them. Are they themselves intersex? I doubt it, but it’s all good because it’s just part of their bullshit bait and switch “sex is a spectrum” smokescreen. It doesn’t pertain to them personally, but it lets them muddy the water and sow doubt amongst the unknowing but blithely supportive progressive populace. It let’s TRAs use the “assigned (sex) at birth” formula, which probably ranks just behind “TWAW” in the Trans Phrase Playbook in frequency of deployment. As I believe Holms (?) put it in another thread, their sloganeering tactics are designed to short circuit debate, not encourage it.
That girls and women are put at risk is also not their problem. Validation, affirmation and obedience are more important to these AGP TIMs than the consideration of the health and safety of women and girls. They should have known better than to be born female.
Remember that image of a slide presentation that someone was giving that listed the signs of someone being trans? One of the first bullet points was “experiences gender dysphoria”. About 20 bullet points later was another that read “does not experience gender dysphoria”. So I guess we are ALL trans.
I think they were all gender dysphoric as kids in a retrospective sense. You know, like all of a sudden, as adults, they discovered that they were always gender dysphoric and that’s what their problem was. But you’re right. All of the guys I know who transitioned were nebbishes who weren’t the least bit feminine before transition. Meanwhile, I knew other guys who were seriously swishy as kids and they mostly turned out gay. The idea that someone wants to intervene with these boys and recruit them into this trans cult and castrate them is nothing short of horrifying to me.
It’s not enough to shut down all the lesbian bars and force adult lesbians out of their own spaces. It’s not enough to screw up women’s sports, and try to get rapists into women’s prisons. They have to meddle with the kids. All those little teenage butches being convinced to mutilate themselves, destroy their voices, destroy their health. All those femme boys being sold a fantasy bill of goods. This magic bean will make you into a woman. No, no it won’t. It will only make you into a eunuch. Has the age of castrati returned?
I’m an ecumenical sort of guy. I’m fine with letting all the kinks have their place to play. I’ll even call some bony geek in a skirt “miss” if it makes him happy. But this TRA crap makes everybody else’s life worse. I’m not a lesbian. I’m not a gay man. I’m not a child. I’m not one of the people whose life is most directly threatened by TRA nonsense. But it makes life harder for parents, which I am, and it makes life harder too for people who just don’t want to play the gender game as hard as others seem to. I find it pretentious and twee to refer to oneself as “gender non-conforming,” but I have always looked forward to a future of loosening gender role strictures, where fewer and fewer people care that women are supposed to do or be X, and men are supposed to do or be Y, and this TRA crap is a giant step back from that.
Almost perfect parallel to the diagnostic check lists for ‘repressed memories.’ Even of elaborate ‘Satanic abuse.’
If you did, or did not, remember X, you must have been X’d. The lists could have been simplified down to:
‘Are you a carbon-based life-form?’ Yes? you were a victim of Satanists.
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