Do your housework cheerfully as unto the Lord
A Good Christian Woman who goes by the name “The Transformed Wife” dispenses Good Christian Wisdom on Facebook (founded by Jesus shortly after he did the loaves and fishes trick). She dispenses it by writing it in writing in a little notebook and then taking a photo of the writing. So quaint yet tech-savvy at the same time! A couple of days ago she dispensed Ladies Serve Your Men Wisdom:
Do you “expect” your husband to help w/ household chores? If you do, you won’t have a happy marriage b/c expectations destroy relationships. If he helps, great + if not, do your housework cheerfully as unto the Lord. Remember, you didn’t marry your husband to help w/the household chores. You married him to be your protector + provider.
Well if she married him to be her protector and provider then that’s a set of expectations, surely.
Side issue: why do people abbreviate “because” and “with” and no other words (apart from “and” which has actual symbols)? Where did that come from? Does writing “w/” instead of “with” really save that much time? And why does poor useful logical “because” need to be shrunk? I don’t get it.
My husband “expects” (strange quotes there) to help with the chores. In fact, he does most of them because he is retired and I work like seventy gazillion hours a week. A marriage is a partnership, and it isn’t about him “helping” me. It is up to both of us to maintain the house we share, cook the meals we share, wash the dishes we both dirty, and do the laundry we both need washed. Our marriage is a gazillion times happier than my first marriage, where my husband “expected” me to do the housework, shopping, and child care. We both worked outside the home, I worked more hours, made more money, and still did 99.98% of the housework. He made the bed in the morning (but that’s because he was still in it when I left for work). He took the son to child care, because it wasn’t open yet when I went to work. I did the rest.
Then he had the guts to complain during marriage counseling that he “was tired of doing half the housework”! By the way, we didn’t have a Christian marriage, since we were both atheists…but he had been raised by women who took care of him, and he expected I would continue doing the same.
My current marriage has lasted more than twice as long as that marriage did. Housework = women’s work is not the equation for a happy marriage. Respect + love = happy marriage.
And I do not expect my husband to provide for me. I can do that on my own. That’s what makes our marriage happy. We stay together not because we have to (needy) but because we want to…I could walk out on him tomorrow, or he on me, and we would both survive. But we wish to be together, so we are together.
Amen to that!
Let’s get right to the main issue:
I have a coworker that abbreviates a ton of stuff, and then everyone has to ask them what the abbreviations means. It might save them a little time, but the rest of us suffer. They use abbreviations like “s/b” for “should be”, and when people complain they say these are standard abbreviations.
And don’t get me started on the fact that we live in a world where we had to abbreviate “OK” to “K”.
For once we share a nitpicky gripe!
I once had a coworker like that too back in my zookeeper days – a new hire and she was addicted to business speak for no known reason, and was always leaving notes full of references to people via only their initials. Especially annoying since we had at least 3 JSs but that didn’t prevent her from sprinkling JS all over her notes.
Speaking of zookeeper days – off topic a bit – did anyone else hear that Koko died?
Yes, alas.
She should say “You married him to be a slave.”
Crazy.
I find it really jarring when things are abbreviated using this “/” because I think of it as something that denotes options. As in “Mr/Mrs/Miss/Ms (please delete as appropriate)”. So my poor little brain reads “you should have married him B-or-C … wait, what? Oh, right.”
S/b is a common abbreviation among proofreaders and editors.
The one I always hated was tx for “thanks.”
How many ‘Xtian’ marriages actually function with a one-wage economy? How do trailer-park patriarchs maintain their ‘provider/protector’ status when the humble wifelet is dragging herself home from a shift at Walmart?
The logical conclusion for big time daddies like the Morman polygamists is…welfare fraud.
Through a combination of denial and force.