Ha! Reminds me. I had a customer once at the little gay cocktail bar I used to bartend at. He showed up to attend a meet-and-greet social for gay/bisexual women who want to network and make new friends. This guy was literally six foot six or taller — an absolute giant. A beast. And he had a deep, raspy bass voice to match his hulking appearance. And I swear, I think he literally just duct taped two full regulation-size basketballs to his chest and then squeezed a stretchy tube top over them. I don’t even know how he fit through the front door. From the second he walked in, he started yakking at me about how neat it was that he was in a gay bar — “I mean, I’m into girls, you know what I mean? But I’m a little… different, if you catch my drift…” that kind of kinky talk. I was just trying to get him seated and take his drink order, and already he was talking about his sexual interests. Ugh!
That was one of my “peak trans” moments, when I became completely fed up with the trans movement and couldn’t hold it in anymore.
(And that social group for lesbian & bisexual women who want to network and make new friends? They never booked their event at my bar ever again. Jee, I wonder fucking why?)
It is my considered opinion, after encountering hundreds, or perhaps even thousands, of such self-portraits online, that these men are so divorced from reality that they continue to see their fantasy even when looking in a mirror. They certainly can’t be seeing what the rest of us can see, because if they did they’d have to curl up and die from embarrassment.
Your comment appears to have been sarcastic, but I honestly can’t figure it out. He obviously does not pass, does not come close to passing, cannot possibly fool anyone, not even himself when looking in a mirror, therefore I truly cannot make the mental leap to put myself in his shoes. I do not see what he gains or might hope to gain.
I guess I am too mentally different. I don’t understand the insane, or I identify as a reality-oriented person, something like that… but I simply can’t shift my perspective even as a thought experiment enough to see the attempt as anything but futile.
The meaning of my sarcastic comment was that he seems to have a thing for gigantic tits so he decided the simplest thing was to attach a pair to himself. That’s all. No subtle hidden meaning.
Also…on reading your comment again it occurs to me that passing and fooling anyone is no longer required or expected or demanded or pretty much anything. That’s part of the point of the “movement” – it’s pure command. “I am a trans woman”=you have to obey my self-description. How does one obey other people’s self-descriptions? By pretending to believe them, of course. Fuck passing, fuck fooling anyone; if I say I’m a woman I’m a woman, even if I’m 7 feet tall with a jaw like a construction block.
Ophelia, Helen Joyce has argued that older autogynephiles are so eager to push for puberty blockers to help younger trans-identified males “pass” the way they were never able to do themselves. My theory is a little less charitable than that. I suspect they want there to be as many “passing” TIMs out there as possible for a slightly less “altruistic” reason. After all TRAs are already making the argument that “Trans women have been using women’s toilets [etc.] for years. You just haven’t noticed”. The point seems to be that since TIMs with “passing privilege” are already able to use women’s facilities, it’s unfair to deny access to 7 foot tall obvious males with jaws like construction blocks simply based on their appearance.
Ha! Reminds me. I had a customer once at the little gay cocktail bar I used to bartend at. He showed up to attend a meet-and-greet social for gay/bisexual women who want to network and make new friends. This guy was literally six foot six or taller — an absolute giant. A beast. And he had a deep, raspy bass voice to match his hulking appearance. And I swear, I think he literally just duct taped two full regulation-size basketballs to his chest and then squeezed a stretchy tube top over them. I don’t even know how he fit through the front door. From the second he walked in, he started yakking at me about how neat it was that he was in a gay bar — “I mean, I’m into girls, you know what I mean? But I’m a little… different, if you catch my drift…” that kind of kinky talk. I was just trying to get him seated and take his drink order, and already he was talking about his sexual interests. Ugh!
That was one of my “peak trans” moments, when I became completely fed up with the trans movement and couldn’t hold it in anymore.
(And that social group for lesbian & bisexual women who want to network and make new friends? They never booked their event at my bar ever again. Jee, I wonder fucking why?)
Great comment, Arty!
It is my considered opinion, after encountering hundreds, or perhaps even thousands, of such self-portraits online, that these men are so divorced from reality that they continue to see their fantasy even when looking in a mirror. They certainly can’t be seeing what the rest of us can see, because if they did they’d have to curl up and die from embarrassment.
You women must feel so inspired! /s
Your comment appears to have been sarcastic, but I honestly can’t figure it out. He obviously does not pass, does not come close to passing, cannot possibly fool anyone, not even himself when looking in a mirror, therefore I truly cannot make the mental leap to put myself in his shoes. I do not see what he gains or might hope to gain.
I guess I am too mentally different. I don’t understand the insane, or I identify as a reality-oriented person, something like that… but I simply can’t shift my perspective even as a thought experiment enough to see the attempt as anything but futile.
The meaning of my sarcastic comment was that he seems to have a thing for gigantic tits so he decided the simplest thing was to attach a pair to himself. That’s all. No subtle hidden meaning.
Also…on reading your comment again it occurs to me that passing and fooling anyone is no longer required or expected or demanded or pretty much anything. That’s part of the point of the “movement” – it’s pure command. “I am a trans woman”=you have to obey my self-description. How does one obey other people’s self-descriptions? By pretending to believe them, of course. Fuck passing, fuck fooling anyone; if I say I’m a woman I’m a woman, even if I’m 7 feet tall with a jaw like a construction block.
Ophelia, Helen Joyce has argued that older autogynephiles are so eager to push for puberty blockers to help younger trans-identified males “pass” the way they were never able to do themselves. My theory is a little less charitable than that. I suspect they want there to be as many “passing” TIMs out there as possible for a slightly less “altruistic” reason. After all TRAs are already making the argument that “Trans women have been using women’s toilets [etc.] for years. You just haven’t noticed”. The point seems to be that since TIMs with “passing privilege” are already able to use women’s facilities, it’s unfair to deny access to 7 foot tall obvious males with jaws like construction blocks simply based on their appearance.