Pronoun fatigue
This is hilarious, if only Pink News could see it. Demi Lovato stopped “using gender neutral pronouns” because omigod it was so exhausting. I’m pretty sure I know why it was so exhausting.
Demi Lovato, who now uses both she/her and they/them pronouns, publicly came out as non-binary with a preference for they/them pronouns in a moving video in May 2021, just weeks after coming out as pansexual.
Oh I bet that was tremendously moving. It’s always moving watching narcissists tell us all about their pronouns and opinions and struggles and feelings. It’s especially moving that it was just weeks after she came out as pansexual. We should all start coming out as things; apparently it’s very important and moving. I’ll start: I’m coming out as fond of sunsets.
Since then, the “Cool for the Summer” singer has reflected on their gender fluidity as feeling “equally masculine and feminine” and their approach to keeping their identity “open and free” as their gender evolves over time.
Oh oh oh have they? That sounds so unique and fascinating and profound and new.
In May 2022, they made headlines again after quietly updating their pronouns to include she/her again on their Instagram bio. At the time they clarified that they weren’t “paying attention” to the reaction of “ignorant people”, and later added that the pronoun change was due to “feeling more feminine” in an interview with Tamara Dhia on the Spout podcast.
They made headlines? For that? Really?
“I constantly had to educate people and explain why I identified with those pronouns. It was absolutely exhausting,” the 30-year-old singer-songwriter told GQ.
“I just got tired. But for that very reason I know that it is important to continue spreading the word.”
No wait hang on. It’s the other way around. The reason it was so absolutely exhausting is that you were talking complete bullshit. That’s why you had to keep explaining. You see? If you decide to have boutique pronouns for yourself, and you run around announcing the fact, people are going to ask questions. If you want a quiet life without question-exhaustion, skip the boutique parts of speech. It works wonders.
Elsewhere in the interview, they shared their exhaustion at the lack of gender-neutral spaces and the difficulties navigating everyday life as a genderqueer person forced to conform to binary ideas of gender.
“I face this every day,” the Grammy-nominated artist continued. “For example, in public toilets. Having to access the women’s bathroom, even though I don’t completely identify with it.”
Jesus christ. I’ve run out of scornful jokes. These people are so pathetic. Go donate to Ukrainian refugees, campaign against fossile fuels (without glueing yourself to any art works), climb a mountain, watch a sunset, read a book. Do things that aren’t about you.
Are you trying to commit GENOCIDE? Shame on you!
Yeah, I’m tired of hearing every narcissist ramble on about themselves, and not just gender pronouns. There are so many that are so vocal.
It’s too bad that captured media outlets and their reporters (and White House spokespeople) don’t suffer from bullshit fatigue. You’d think it would be hard to have to translate everything into genderspeak that hides the truth, that one would tire from the constant vigilence to police and censor oneself to avoid slipping up. But I suppose there is the fervour of the True Believer, too.
Did young Red Guards ever feel any feel doubt, remorse, or guilt as they meted out punishments to counter-revolutionary Enemies of the People? Or did they simply relish the power that they’d been handed, trying to outdo each other in ruthlessness and devotion; not simply doing so to survive, but because they enjoyed it? I imagine that for some of them, the actual ideology they enforced was irrelevent, they were just lucky to be able to unleash their sociopathy, whatever the cause. They became the unlikely beneficiaries of a perverse symbiosis where their personal psycholgy and the political needs of the Party happened to coincide. The regime needed to recruit their type to bully (and kill) its opponents. I could see many trans activists, if given the chance, would willingly follow the same path if it opened up to them. It’s chilling to think that many of the allegations of imminent (or actual) “trans genocide” are projections of what they would do themselves if given a chance. “Every accusation is a confession.”
Wasn’t the point of us all putting pronouns on our profiles to display support for those who were TQN? It wasn’t supposed to matter what our pronouns were. I suspect that Lovato’s real crime here is not using she/her, but removing herself from the TQN. Once declared, stepping back is seen as a betrayal. If anything, those who go Q or N are supposed to eventually realise that they’re really T. That’s the ‘approved’ story arc.
So Famous Lady doesn’t like public toilets, but she doesn’t like them in a special way, not like common schlubs.
Demi Lovato overdosed on drugs and had a heart attack and 3 strokes. She has brain damage and impaired vision as a result. This is all before turning 30.
After this, she released a song about her new lifestyle called “California Sober”, which refers to only using marijuana and light psychedelics but not hard drugs or alcohol. Except she said she still did drink some alcohol.
After gaining a significant amount of weight, she went into a froyo shop and found they were selling sugar-free items. She then did a video on Instagram naming them and accusing them of promoting disordered eating (and clearly trying to sic her followers on them). People pointed out the existence of diabetes to her, and she backed down.
So…not the brightest bulb in the pack. Can’t even keep straight if she feels more feminine or if they/them was just too tiring.
…What an idiotic sentence. I don’t identify with a toilet either you fucking tool, but you don’t see me banging on about it.
Rob, it does seem to have a large element of saving face. Pretending that she is still a TQN member while bowing out of fighting for said membership seems like a distinction without a difference.
“came out as pansexual.”
Only attracted to beings that are half man half goat?
Or to certain items of cookware. Gender identity is flexible, if nothing else.
I’ve been watching Star Trek, Strange New Worlds, and it’s excellent. No, really. Except….
There are several actors that are new to me, such as Celia Rose Gooding. I went to the Google machine to find more info on her. She plays Cadet Uhura. I just wanted to check if she’s related to Cuba Gooding, Jr. I guess she isn’t. But she is a they and uses both she and they pronouns (which addles my brain.)
But I notice that there is a surplus of young actors who do this. It’s required to get work now, isn’t it?
Mike H @9–
I don’t think so. I’m not sure. Rumor has it some Hollywood bigwigs are sick of it. But it may be a generational thing there, as elsewhere.
I was at a play tonight, and the number of “they”s in the program was astonishing – all of them quite plainly “she”, taking on “she” roles without being bothered that the play (Midsummer Night’s Dream) has a clear sexual binary between Hermia and Lysander, Helena and Demetrius, Titania and Oberon…
One young lady used “they/she” pronouns, shifting from they halfway through her bio to she. My husband asked what that meant. I guessed it must be gender fluid. She started the bio as a NB they, but by the time she finished writing the four sentence bio, she was in girl mode?