Guest post: If the men behave like feral hogs
Originally a comment by As The Smoke Rises Upwards on Permits for brothels.
I claim no expertise on the subject, but my understanding is that legalizing prostitution increases trafficking of women. Once would-be johns no longer fear the legal consequences of paying for sex, demand for prostitutes soars. For some reason, however, not too many women are eager to sign up for a highly stigmatized job that will require them to have sex with an endless line of strange men who may or may not have STDs.¹ And so women are brought in from Eastern Europe and Southeast Asia to fill the gap between supply and demand.
I’ve also read that even legal prostitution—or perhaps especially legal prostitution—generates a sort of social blast zone wherever it is carried out. Women and girls who have the misfortune of living in the area are harassed and solicited for sex. This is why many localities that legalize prostitution at the same time attempt to restrict it to clearly delineated red light districts removed from residential areas and shopping districts. But if the men who are out buying sex behave like feral hogs towards even the “normal” and “good” women who happen to be walking on the street with them, then how exactly are they treating the “bad” and “dirty” women—the acceptable victims—when they’re alone together in a brothel room?
(1) Some brothels take steps to protect their “employees” (read: merchandise) from STDs, but based on what I’ve read, these measures are often very perfunctory—wouldn’t want to drive away customers, after all—and even more rigorous screening practices aren’t going to be failproof.
This video has a great discussion of the topic by Elly Arrow:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LJ1uwLiRSiI
I’m not entirely sure. Look, I’m looking at the issue from a South African perspective, and South Africa isn’t really functional.
Right from 1994, we’ve got a history of our police being corrupt. I don’t think we’ve had a national police commissioner who hasn’t been indicted for major criminal activity.
Rape is a particular problem in South Africa, as is the spread of STDs. Prostitution is illegal but the net effect so far as I can see it, is that our cops tend to use this in order to harass the prostitutes into “free service”, with the cops basically running extortion rackets. A legal ban in my country’s case appears to just make things worse.
So I’ve got that developing world cynicism so far as law enforcement is concerned where I’m not sure if decriminalization increases human trafficking and suchlike, or if it makes it more possible for the victims to come forward with less fear of police harassment.
But I am talking from a perspective where the police are part of our crime problems, so I’m not sure that is a good judge of how it plays out in a country that doesn’t have the degree of corruption issues that we have in South Africa.
Well, lots of countries do have that degree of corruption issues, so we need that perspective.
I think once again it comes down to changing the toxic culture around women. As long as men feel entitled to sexual services from women, it may not matter whether prostitution is legal or illegal in how men solicit women. And as long as we view the prostitutes as the problem (which most people here in the midwest United States do) rather than male entitlement being the problem, we can’t change the toxic culture.
People will be momentarily shocked at a man buying sex; they will be shocked for a lifetime if a woman sells it. The man will apologize (or not) and will soon move back into his favored social circle with no lasting impact. Just “boys will be boys” and “why should we ruin him over such a small thing”? His wife may divorce him and take the kids, which is a consequence, but only if he is discovered. A woman who is a prostitute will often be known. She will always be one of “those women”.
iknklast – that I think is very true, and there is a real problem in the way a lot of men see things. A lot of men seem to think that because they want something, they have the right to demand it, and not doing so is seen as cowardice. Self-restraint, it seems, is for losers.
It is not just “boys will be boys” – but almost like you’re not a proper boy unless you’re also a cad.
I was actually about to write a comment saying basically this, but now it would be redundant.
I think this sort of attitude is a large factor in many problems, including trans “rights” activism, and the destruction of the biosphere.