Alpha males on public transport

From the Male Dominance Displays on Social Media files:

https://twitter.com/ask_aubry/status/1622413705983004677

It’s a bit weird, she keeps saying. It’s a bit weird for a man to sit in the aisle seat next to a woman on an empty bus, she says. No it’s not a bit weird; it’s blatantly intrusive and rude and bordering on assault. It borders on assault because she’s physically pinned to her seat: she can’t get out unless he lets her. It’s not a bit weird, it’s a deliberate hostile aggressive act.

I had a man get pointlessly aggressive with me on a bus a few years back, not in the “Hi honey” way of course but in the random belligerent toad way. I had a heavy backpack and a couple of auxiliary bags and the bus was mostly empty, so I was in one seat and my stuff was in the other, and Mister Toad came along and ordered me to let him sit in that seat. No, I said, there are plenty of empty seats – there were empty double seats – so sit in one of them. He ordered me to move my stuff, I told him if I did that I would have to stand, carrying all that stuff, so no, GO AWAY. He persisted, and I persisted in refusing, and he finally gave up, with some snide remark about my moving all my household goods. After about the third refusal I was simply shouting at him “LEAVE ME ALONE” and for a surprisingly long time he wouldn’t. It was insane.

If the bus had been full, of course, I would have had to stand, carrying all the stuff, because that’s only fair. I’ve had to do that occasionally. But the bus wasn’t full. There is no bus rule that says you can’t put your heavy backpack in one seat and sit in the other; that’s not a thing.

Dominance display.

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