Guest post: The entire edifice rests on sexism
Originally a comment by Nullius in Verba on A tool that enforces sexism.
Proffering pronouns conceptually depends on the view that “one’s pronouns” are (1) of critical importance and (2) self-determined and inaccessible to others if not publicly stated. (2) gets most of the attention, as it’s the more obviously wrongheaded notion. We know what pronouns are and how they work, because we’ve been using them since we started emulating our parents’ speech as babies. Seeing that these demands for announcing pronouns, which are not always even words, are incompatible with what pronouns are and how they work is easy and intuitive for most people with functioning brain cells not warped by propaganda and in-group loyalty. Unfortunately, the ease of opposing (2) means that (1) doesn’t get the attention it deserves, which is probably most of it.
For whom is the practice of presenting pronouns putatively important? Believers don’t claim that it’s important for everyone—except instrumentally. They don’t even claim that it’s important for them—except instrumentally. Pronoun declarations are solely for those who refuse to participate in the English language specifically and reality generally. All of us and all the “allies” become mere means toward the end of sating some ill-defined need of those who fall under the “trans umbrella”, because they feel that “their” pronouns are of utmost importance. By engaging in the pronoun farce, the believer signals submission to the feelings of those who claim trans and enby status. Believers naively respond to purported suffering without realizing that endorsement of the conclusion (i.e., pronouns are existential) tacitly endorses the premises on which the conclusion depends.
And what are those? Sastra summarized the belief structure nicely:
Pronoun culture is a tool that reinforces sexism because it’s derived from a life stance in which it really, really matters if you’re a man or a woman or neither or both. That’s because the premise is that being a man or a woman or neither or both is the very core of your being, and defines your humanity. Proponents cannot emphasize this enough, as seen by how easily they accept that suicide is an expected and reasonable response to being “misgendered” too often, or too thoroughly. You cannot even think of cultivating indifference, or a personality or interests or goals which matter more than your being a man or woman or neither or both.
If one believes one’s gender and associated reproductive function to be one’s defining characteristic qua person, then pronouns map to the core of one’s identity (where identity refers to the coherent thing-that-is-I, not a mere self-conception). But even this is insufficient to motivate the conclusion that “misgendering” is an attack on one’s identity, a sort of metaphysical and not just metaphorical violence. To take that extra step requires the belief that gender is normative. Being male or female must say something about one’s worth qua person. Otherwise, to “misgender” would be no more troublesome than to wrongly describe someone’s hair color, height, age, or sports fandom. If one believes that being male or female entails something negative, then of course one will resist that label. The entire edifice rests on sexism, which believers and casual allies (at the very least) tacitly support by endorsing the conclusions that follow therefrom.
Nice post, but could you clarify this?
Are you saying that the demands aren’t always words, or the pronouns aren’t always words?
I think ze meant the pronouns.
The neopronouns. It’s not even hyperbole. Some of the pronoun brigade claim actual emoji for their pronouns.
Ah, that I did not know.
Reminds me of that repeated Key and Peele sketch.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gODZzSOelss
Emojiself.
There aren’t enough eyes to roll.
They’re trying to evoke Prince in his “artist formerly known as” stage. Of course Prince had a legitimate reason for not using his name.
Ah, emojiself pronouns. This is very very serious and absolutely innate, a deep part of their personality formed during the person’s gestation in the person’s mother’s womb, I mean the person’s birthing person’s womb. If we get them wrong, it’s literal murder.
https://www.quora.com/I-use-emojiself-pronouns-s-self-and-a-couple-others-and-nounself-pronouns-What-is-your-opinion-do-you-think-Im-valid
Hmm. The original poster says: “I use emojiself pronouns. Do you think I’m valid?”
The responses are all either: “Yes, of course, you’re very valid!”, or “Emojiself pronouns are stupid and a mockery of trans people (who are very very valid), and thus you’re not valid, but misgendering is so evil that I’ll use your emojiself pronouns nonetheless”, or “No, emojiself pronouns are not valid because they’re a mockery of trans people, and transness is super-sacred and important.”
Ugh. “Valid” is a perfectly fine and serviceable word, but these people’s abuse of it is starting to make me snarl whenever I encounter it. Along with several other heretofore useful words like “problematic”, “identity”, and “journey”. It’s not the words’ fault that they’ve been mistreated so; they are victims. Nonetheless, I reach for others just to avoid the taint.
So presumably emoji pronouns are only to be used on Facebook or something. How do you utter an emoji? Make a face or something?
From NiV’s link:
I don’t know why we should limit this to pronouns. I want my own bespoke tenses. My past tense is ⚡; my present tense is “SHAZAM!”
@my 12, in the blockquote the emoji pronoun is a picture of a strawberry; it didn’t survive the copy and paste (another hazard of emojiselfishness).
Our entire society was built on the twin cornerstones of racism and sexism. By using free labor, whether from women or people of color, white men were able to get rich while someone else took care of them. They didn’t have to think of the day-to-day drudgery of either field or home; someone else did that. Now they can’t have slaves anymore, and they can’t subjugate women without their permission. Now they become women to get back in control of us.
In the car, I’ve started trying these out with the family. It certainly is easier to remember.
https://farcornercafe.blogspot.com/2021/07/just-in-from-hr.html
A friend posted a non-public image on Facebook, a screenshot of some social media thread, to the effect of: “ur first and last recent emojis are ur gender now”. You know, kind of like the games that devise your pirate name or the title of your autobiographical movie based on random irrelevant information. I’d say it’s playful mockery of the “emoji gender” idea, but it really isn’t, that’s probably wishful thinking on my part.
Slight aside: I rarely use emoji, in part because I can rarely tell what they are, especially the facial-expression ones. I tend to look them up in Emojipedia, and then get pedantic when people use them to mean something other than their official Unicode definition. I get confused by emoji-like images that are not part of the officially-recognized Unicode emoji set, and I don’t know what to call them; certainly not “emoji”. Some people find it fun and amusing to ignore or flout standard meanings; I find them intensely irritating. It’s like redefining words.