Consensual snacking

A…what?

Yes, There’s a Safe Way to Have a Cannibalism Fetish.

A…what?

As a fetish educator, I’m so tired of seeing the Armie Hammer allegations used against the BDSM community.

A what educator? The what community?

But most stories and commentary have remained focused on the sensationalism of his supposed cannibalism fetish and have ignored the real issue: that the foundation of true BDSM relationships is consent. We spoke to Jet Setting Jasmine, a master fetish educator, licensed clinical psychotherapist, and co-owner of Royal Fetish Films, to discuss why this is so damaging.

Ah yes consent. As long as you consent it’s fine if this strapping lad starts cutting away bits of you for dinner. I’m guessing that the “cannibals” are men and the dinners are women. Just a hunch.

Here’s what I’ve been seeing people get wrong in the conversation around Armie Hammer and the abuse allegations against him: His alleged cannibalism fetish itself isn’t the problem. The problem is, if the allegations are true, whether he used his power to groom these women into participating in a lifestyle they had truly not consented to.

That’s a lifestyle now? Someone chowing down on your flesh is a lifestyle? And the women who are devoured are “participating” in that “lifestyle”?

A cannibalism fetish, or vorarephilia, is characterized by a person who fantasizes about consuming someone or being consumed. The key word there is “fantasy.” The fetish never goes so far as actually eating or killing someone, of course—that’d be illegal. Just having the conversation around eating someone, and being sexually stimulated by that, is considered a cannibalism fetish.

And it’s fine, because people never – literally never – go from fantasy and talking about it to actually doing it. That would be illegal. Nobody ever does anything illegal. That would be illegal. Never mind the fact that there are many documented cases of people going from fantasizing about illegal act X to performing illegal act X; this is completely different because is that a bottle of steak sauce?

Any form of grooming into a lifestyle without consent is a violation. Consent is the difference between BDSM and non-BSDM encounters. We cannot actually consider an encounter true BDSM if there isn’t consent involved. The minute that a hookup does not have clear consent, it has already fallen out of BDSM and into an inappropriate interaction.

Well yes, that is inappropriate, but it’s too late to do anything about it, because he’s already killed her.

Can these people really be that stupid???

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