A pair of unsparing judges
Were White Fragility to be adapted as reality TV, the result might look something like this: A collection of affluent white women, equipped with varying degrees of vanity and self-delusion, gather at a well-appointed dinner table. There, they face down a pair of unsparing judges prepared to see right through them. Who’s racist? Time to find out. White wine flows; white women admit shameful secrets. They get squirmy; they get angry; they turn on each other. If one of them starts to cry, she has to leave. She will find tissues in the designated crying room.
The Real Housewives of White Fragility?
The Bravo version of Robin DiAngelo, in other words, might look a bit like Race2Dinner. Begun in 2019 by Regina Jackson and Saira Rao, Race2Dinner gathers groups of eight white women at the home of a white host, where Jackson and Rao facilitate a discussion about race over dinner.
And collect $5,000 along with the meal.
Jackson and Rao ask guests to describe racist things they’ve recently done and press them on any evasions. Often the examples that emerge involve silence: failing to speak up or intervene. Sometimes they consist of thoughts or feelings: assuming that the Black teens pulled over in a white neighborhood must have been doing something wrong. Sometimes the guests struggle to think of what to say. “Not knowing is classic white behavior,” Rao told me. “You don’t know, because it would ruin your entire image of being the perfect, nice white lady. I’m sure you’re intimately familiar with this, being a white woman.”
Heads they win, tails you lose.
When they first started out, they charged $2,500 per dinner, to be covered by the host or divided among her guests.
“That’s peanuts,” Jackson told me when we spoke over Zoom. “People pay more than that to go to a yoga conference.”
Damn right! Make it 50k – make it 100k. Karens have all the money.
Their business model, unsurprisingly, attracted attention. In February 2020, a Guardian article on their dinners made the rounds online, inspiring umbrage and hilarity across the political spectrum.
I’m pretty sure I did a post on that article, but I haven’t been able to find it. I’m very sure I read it, at least. It’s interesting to learn how helpful it was to the nice facilitators.
Jackson and Rao, meanwhile, received an influx of new inquiries about their service and signed a deal to write a book called White Women: Everything You Already Know About Your Own Racism and How to Do Better. They also raised the fee for each dinner to $5,000.
Cha-ching! Thanks, Guardian!
Lisa Bond serves as Race2-Dinner’s “resident white woman”; Jackson and Rao hired her to help organize events after she hosted her own dinner two years ago. (Bond had initially balked at the cost, but after seeing a post from Rao and Jackson about how many white women balked at the cost, she resolved not to be like the others.) Last summer, Bond said, she fielded some 300 emails in a three-month period and had nearly 100 follow-up phone calls of 30 or 45 minutes each. Of those, three women proceeded to book an event. “We get excuse after excuse after excuse,” Bond said. “It’s typical white-women fashion.”
An excuse isn’t actually required. It isn’t school or a court date or a job.
Jackson and Rao, who live in Denver, met in 2018, when Rao ran an underdog primary campaign against Democratic congresswoman Diana DeGette — “literally the patron saint of toxic white womanhood,” Rao said.
Literally. Who knew it was a literal category?
One of the past year’s few in-person dinners took place three days after the attack on the Capitol. Rao said that one woman — “the only woman in the group who seemed remotely willing to do this work, period” — had a question at the end of the evening. She looked at Jackson, and she looked at Rao, “and she goes, ‘Do you see any difference between us and the people that stormed the Capitol?’ And we both said, ‘No.’ ” The assembled women, a group of Colorado business and nonprofit leaders, “lost their entire minds,” Rao recalled. “So this notion of not all white people, not all white women — that is completely unchanged.”
What about all opportunistic profiteering women?
So if you haven’t actually done or said anything racist, you are deemed someone who can’t face your own racism? If you report that you stood up for minority citizens, you are unable to face your own racism? Yeah, they’ve got a real deal going. Like you said, heads they win, tails you lose.
I wonder how many things they can talk liberal white women into just by saying they are just like other white women if they don’t do it?
And balking at the cost probably has little to do with whiteness. I imagine most women of color would balk at that much for a dinner, too. And only the woke or would-be-woke would willingly pay that much for a single dinner that comes with being told how awful they are.
And this fits in the category of TERFs being just like Nazi Germany. False equivalency much?
iknklast:
Literally not possible for anyone constructed as white or white adjacent. Racism is always present in every interaction. The question is not whether racism manifested, but instead how racism manifested. They only think that they haven’t done or said anything racist, because their false consciousness blinds them to their own complicity in upholding white supremacy.
Then they have white minds and have internalized white supremacy, which means they are not authentically people of color.
Is this the rebirth of Radical Chic?
https://nymag.com/news/features/46170/
And who knew it had a patron saint? The pope, he been busy…
But what do I pray to Rep (St?) DeGette for? I can pray to St. Jude to find my lost car keys, and then I can pray to St. Christopher for safe passage once I find them, but what is St. DeGette going to do for me? Hmmm…maybe wikipedia can help…
I dunno…I’m not seeing the toxic white womanhood. Maybe she sends it to you in a jar…
What a brilliant idea! Charge money for people to star in and incriminate themselves in a catered Struggle Session! Of course white women are much easier targets to attack than say, white men or government institutions, what with the latter putting you on hold, or under arrest, and the former telling you to fuck right off. Women’s socialization renders them predisposed to want to be helpful and supportive of others, even at the expense of their own well-being. Combine it with a generous Liberal Guilt hunger for Woke Cookies, and you’ve got a sure-fire recipe for raking in the dough. And, your
victimsclients will thank you for it!Nullus @ #2:
The woke left really seems like the craziest arguments of fundamentalist Christians. We have all inherited the sins of our fathers. Except there is not even a Jesus to save us from our inherited, innate sin. Only punishment in the here and now from the Woke Priesthood.
This encapsulates their attitudes in a nutshell.
Brian M: Totally. And here I had thought that getting away from the notion that we are damned for the sins of our fathers was one of the great advances in moral technology. Like … You can talk about regressive, but seriously getting back to Biblical conceptions of justice? Shit, that’s impressive.
I don’t know anything about this Diana DeGette, all I know is these goons just called her a saint. Numpties.
Of course, pointing out the existence of grifters like these is ‘playing into the hands’ of Republicans trying to ban Critical Race Theory. We are reduced to a dance of dueling idiocies.
There are days when I think the only thing that kept the Western world somewhat sane throughout the Cold War era was the living memory of World War II and the threat of nuclear annihilation (On the remaining days I think we were never even “somewhat” sane, and our survival is entirely due to the mutual cancelling out of competing insanities).