Question: How do I talk to a friend who has just undergone an unbearable tragedy — perhaps they’ve lost all their children in a fire, or have had a stroke and become a shell of their former self? The temptation to ask how the kids are doing or see if they want to go to the annual book sale is going to be strong. I feel so awful. What should I do?
Answer: Watch this video, and simply make the appropriate substitutions.
Yes, I need this guy on speed dial so I can consult with him. Because I’m 7 and haven’t learned how to interact with people yet. Funny how they claim the social high ground like the rest of us are Neanderthals.
I tried listening, but I got distracted. That coral lipstick is totally wrong for him. I cannot take social instruction from someone who doesn’t know when to go for dusty rose or mauve, or a blue-toned red lippie.
S’funny how it’s never transmen ordering everyone to put them first.
I imagine this particular individual would be hell to live with. MEEEEEEEEEEE! all day long. Unbearable.
I thought “center the trans person” was perhaps a simplified characterization of what they said…but they literally said just that. Wow.
We’re supposed to accept that this person is part of a repressed group? Do repressed groups normally snidely lecture their oppressors on the specific behavior they expect out of them, inform them that they’ll be incapable of behaving perfectly, and instruct them on how to apologize when they err?
Normally, no, but after several years of allies’ yelling CENTER THE TRANS PERSON without stopping…well that will affect a person.
That really is one of the things I hate most about this “movement,” the constant hyperbolic exclamations about “most marginalized blah blah blah” – the mass freakout, the maudlin exaggeration, the furious commands. And yes enough of that and you get this guy.
Imagine you’re just minding your own business, and someone you vaguely know mentions they are trans and KAPOW! Suddenly you’re their emotional support human. Drop everything, set aside rehearsal time, your life now revolves around coddling and “validating” someone whose crazy is trying so hard to escape out of his own head that it looks like his eyeballs are going to fall out.
Catwhisperer, ’emotional support human’ made me laugh, and just as I’d dried my eyes enough to continue reading, ‘someone whose crazy is trying so hard to escape out of his own head that it looks like his eyeballs are going to fall out’ damn nearly killed me!
Question: How do I talk to a friend who has just undergone an unbearable tragedy — perhaps they’ve lost all their children in a fire, or have had a stroke and become a shell of their former self? The temptation to ask how the kids are doing or see if they want to go to the annual book sale is going to be strong. I feel so awful. What should I do?
Answer: Watch this video, and simply make the appropriate substitutions.
Yes, I need this guy on speed dial so I can consult with him. Because I’m 7 and haven’t learned how to interact with people yet. Funny how they claim the social high ground like the rest of us are Neanderthals.
I wonder what this guy’s name is. Grace Beauty? Felicity Amazing?
Felicity Awhile?
It’s always pleasant to meet someone who wants to tell you what your job is, isn’t it?
No, fella, I already have a job, and that’s not it.
“You don’t matter in the slightest bit, I am all-important”
Now where do we get the idea that this is all about narcissism?
I tried listening, but I got distracted. That coral lipstick is totally wrong for him. I cannot take social instruction from someone who doesn’t know when to go for dusty rose or mauve, or a blue-toned red lippie.
S’funny how it’s never transmen ordering everyone to put them first.
I imagine this particular individual would be hell to live with. MEEEEEEEEEEE! all day long. Unbearable.
He’s unbearable to listen to for a minute, so yeah.
Is that Buffalo Bill’s kimono?
@learie #8, “You see, when you ask me to put my dishes in the dishwasher instead of the sink, you are not centering me in that discourse…”
lol
I thought “center the trans person” was perhaps a simplified characterization of what they said…but they literally said just that. Wow.
We’re supposed to accept that this person is part of a repressed group? Do repressed groups normally snidely lecture their oppressors on the specific behavior they expect out of them, inform them that they’ll be incapable of behaving perfectly, and instruct them on how to apologize when they err?
Normally, no, but after several years of allies’ yelling CENTER THE TRANS PERSON without stopping…well that will affect a person.
That really is one of the things I hate most about this “movement,” the constant hyperbolic exclamations about “most marginalized blah blah blah” – the mass freakout, the maudlin exaggeration, the furious commands. And yes enough of that and you get this guy.
Just watched it again. He gets this look of rage on his face just before he says “Center the trans person.”
That is DEFINITELY Buffalo Bill’s kimono.
Imagine you’re just minding your own business, and someone you vaguely know mentions they are trans and KAPOW! Suddenly you’re their emotional support human. Drop everything, set aside rehearsal time, your life now revolves around coddling and “validating” someone whose crazy is trying so hard to escape out of his own head that it looks like his eyeballs are going to fall out.
Catwhisperer, ’emotional support human’ made me laugh, and just as I’d dried my eyes enough to continue reading, ‘someone whose crazy is trying so hard to escape out of his own head that it looks like his eyeballs are going to fall out’ damn nearly killed me!
AoS – you’re welcome :)