Women never get any backlash
Here’s something I bet you didn’t know: women dressing up in exaggeratedly “feminine” clothes is appropriation.
Across the globe, men, women and non-binary individuals practice cross-dressing and drag as a form of expression. The encyclopedia Britannica identifies individuals in drag as performers dressing as the opposite sex or rather, outside of their assigned gender. It is a way of experimenting with the aspect of “the other” in terms of identity.
This practice can be seen in a myriad of settings, including the television show, Ru Paul’s drag race. Individuals who practice drag and cross-dressing have often been persecuted throughout history, resulting in violent discrimination that can even lead to death. Although it has become more socially acceptable over the years, the stigma against it persists. Drag performers have been associated with the LGBTQA community, as it gives individuals the freedom to explore gender identities outside of the norm.
That’s a sloppy (and wrong) generalization, actually. Cross-dressing was a carnivalesque thing to do for centuries before it was called drag or “associated with the LGBTQA community.” It did not result in violent discrimination. There was also of course the tradition in the theatre of having boys play women’s roles; that too did not result in violent discrimination, although it did get up the Puritans’ noses, as did everything else.
One recent event I found out about was that of cis women dressing in “drag” by wearing dresses and excessive makeup while identifying as drag queens.
They sum it up as a form of experimenting with “extreme femininity”. I was confused as to why cis women would choose to identify as drag queens when all they are doing is putting on dresses and makeup, which is something within their gender norm. I discussed this odd occurrence with some non-binary individuals and one of them quickly pointed out that this can even be considered homophobic.
Sure it can, if you work really hard. That’s the great thing about women – you can accuse them of everything, even “appropriating” that which they’ve been bullied into doing since forever. You can call women femmephobic if they refuse to wear skirts and appropriators if they wear skirts – they’re wrong no matter what they do, it’s awesome! And women are so stupid and weak they put up with it. Or else they don’t and then you can call them TERFs and kick the shit out of them while saying it’s all their fault.
When cis women perform as drag queens, they are dipping their feet into the performance of it, this being the positive experience, without receiving any of the backlash of stepping out of their gender norms and being discriminated against for it.
Bitches! Women can do any damn thing they want to and never receive any backlash. No domestic violence, no harassment or abuse, no public mockery and trolling, no rape, no wage or hiring discrimination, no pay gap, no insults, no questioning of their intelligence or stamina or courage or ambition or determination – none of that. They should be locked up.
In addition, cis women are justifying this action by claiming they do it out of admiration for drag performers. So again, why is this act to be considered homophobic?
Because appropriation is a form of discrimination. Essentially, individuals outside of that culture, conveniently steal certain aspects of it, for their own use, without receiving the prejudice and discrimination individuals from that culture are faced with
How dare women steal skirts and makeup from other cultures. They should be executed.
Oh fer…
Men identifying as women (and refusing qualifiers): good.
Men identifying as drag queens: good.
Men embracing femininity: good.
Women identifying as women (and refusing qualifiers): bad.
Women identifying as drag queens: bad.
Women embracing femininity: bad.
Did I capture the rules correctly? Do I win?
My head hurts.
But drag queens who dress in a fashion identified as feminine, and act all silly and giggly and oh-so-feminine, are of course not appropriating. Because women have so much privilege, and it isn’t appropriation when an oppressed group (like men) adopt the cultural norms of the oppressor group (like women).
If nothing in that last paragraph sounded a bit…off…well, maybe you can explain it to me, since it doesn’t gibe with anything that smacks of reality. But what would I know? I am a cis-hetero white woman, so I am in the oppressing class, and therefore obviously am unable to recognize the extreme level of privilege I have over men.
I think I’ll go put my head in the oven now. Oh, wait, that doesn’t work if you have an electric oven. I’ll think of something….
Wonder how these people parse Dolly Parton?
I swear, every day they sound more like parodies of themselves.
This is … very ironic, isn’t it? Complaining about women “appropriating” femininity. Women “appropriating” the clothing, cosmetics and accessories that society says is woman’s proper garb. Women are the ones who “conveniently steal” makeup and dresses without facing “the prejudice and discrimination” of people who wear makeup and dresses. Women “appropriating” what is essentially a caricature of womanhood. Women are expected to be feminine, but aren’t allowed to exaggerate or play with the trappings of femininity. Women aren’t allowed to show how ridiculous it all is through elaborate exaggeration, or have fun with it. Only men are allowed to do that.
Its a bit oppression_olympics, but does the apparent subtext any of the comments above change when the word “gay” is placed before instances of “man” or “men”?
Oh my gawd!
These two are the ones that really bug me. I could easily gain support from the shouty section of trans activism by declaring myself a woman, and never mind the fact that I’m 190cm broad shouldered and usually overdue for a shave. They would rush to support my declaration, and vehemently resent the implication that I might not be biologically female; recall trans women are women and trans women are socialised women and similar mantras.
But a woman that resists being labelled cis? Suddenly it’s all about accepting the label you’ve been given, and that rejecting the concept of cis shows just how cissexist and transmisogynistic you are. You’re enforcing the binary! You’re maintaining the status quo that is killing trans people (who mustn’t be called trans in other contexts but never mind that – it is enough for you to know that trans both exists and doesn’t exists as a category, depending on the conversation) and therefore you are a genocide enabler! etc. etc.
Aha! I knew I’d seen this before!
Shorter Sackbut:
Men Good
Women Bad
Thank you, tMRAs. Never mind 1984; we are now living in Animal Farm.
I always knew that women were up to something suspicious. Oh, sorry, I meant to say “cis women”. Apparently that is a thing that needs to be said now.
Just how many women are calling themselves drag queens? Any?
‘It is a way of experimenting with the aspect of “the other” in terms of identity.’
Oh really? I heard the narrator of a documentary on Fred Astaire use the same language to ‘splain blackface.
This is a bit like accusing Spike Lee of cultural appropriation because of the movie Bamboozled.
@BLar
No, it doesn’t.
BLar, it doesn’t really work, anyway, because non-trans gay men aren’t the ones telling women who play around with extreme femininity that they’re “appropriating” anything.
It wasn’t so very long ago that male drag artists were filed in the ‘transphobic’ section of the playbook because they were only playing at being trans. Oh, how times change, eh?
Times are changing indeed, AoS. It seems that it is more important to put women down than to be consistent.
It would be a little time-consuming, but not too difficult, to find all sorts of contradictory statements that are all held to be inviolable. It’s a typical Cluster B cult. Keep changing the rules in order to keep people guessing what wil get them into trouble next. Gaslighting. They’ve long since abandoned any pretence at protecting transsexual people from violence and discrimination; they are solely about depriving women of hard-won rights. The young women who have been brainwashed into supporting them cannot remember, so do not imagine – or even believe – how bad life used to be for women, nor how vulnerable are the few rights their mothers, grandmothers and great-grandmothers won for them.
Yes, I sometimes tell my students about the time before women could own property or make any decisions on her own. They mostly seem to think pre-feminism means they only worked as nurses and teachers, but were pretty equal other than that.