Stealthy freedom
Remember the captain of Iran’s women’s football team, Niloufar Ardalan, whose husband wouldn’t let her travel to the match in Malaysia? The BBC reports on the aftermath:
The standard marriage contract signed by all newlyweds in Iran allows the husband to decide whether his wife can travel abroad, where the family will live, whether she can go to work, and whether she can ask for a divorce. In this instance, Ardalan says her husband, prominent sports journalist Mehdi Toutounchi, wanted her to be present for their son’s first day at school.
But husbands can choose to waive the provisions of the marriage contract, and now, inspired by Ardalan’s story, dozens of Iranian men who’ve done just that are sharing pictures on social media to advocate gender equality.
They are sending the images to Masih Alinejad, an Iranian journalist now living in the US, and creator of the “My Stealthy Freedom” Facebook page.
It’s true; you can click on that link and see them.
Alinejad tells BBC Trending that many women “simply don’t know” they can request amendments to their marriage contract, even after they’ve signed it. “They need to be aware of what they’re signing, and that they can ask for their rights to be returned,” she explains. Alinejad believes there are “a lot of open-minded Iranian men who support women’s rights,” in spite of the country’s conservative laws, although exactly what proportion of Iranian men would support the project is unclear.
The campaign initially called on men to declare that they wouldn’t restrict their wives’ ability to travel abroad, but most men posted statements saying they had passed all rights back to their wives, including the right to work and the right to request a divorce. “I return all rights… to my life partner,” read one man’s statement. “I’m not an owner but a partner for my wife,” said another. “As a human I feel ashamed to have these rights,” wrote a third.
Here’s one:
And another:
I, an iranian man, am ashamed of the article 18 of the passport law, my wife! you are free.
With all the anti-feminism in the world, it’s good to see stories like these to remind us that plenty of men do actually understand love and partnership.
That probably took some courage to do, too.
Strong, good men. Applause!
I’d like to see my Persian brother-in-law try to restrict my sister in any way!
Seriously, though, it is a good sign that the theocratic revolution didn’t win the hearts and minds of everybody in Iran, and that there is still a strong liberal element in that society, despite the decades of religious suppression.